It's About What You're Doing And Not Who You're Doing It With

Relationships end. Be it death, abandonment, mutual dissolution or something else, they end. So this idea that because you’re in a relationship that doesn’t fit the monogamous ideal puts you at greater risk for your relationship to end is crazy to me....more

Monogamy: the Ultimate Form of Love or a Restraint on Your Freedom?

  A friend and I were talking yesterday about monogamy and open relationships.  We were able to cut the conversation short when we both realized that we had very different viewpoints on the subject.  But, as she always does, she left me thinking.  Essentiall...more
As someone who's in an open relationship, I find the assertion that my husband, who I have been ...more

Some Clarification on Should Polyamorous Parents Raise a Child Together?

A few days ago, I wrote about three polyamorous adults raising a child together. It sparked a lot of debate and criticism, which I really appreciate. I just want to clarify a few things, though: ...more
Thanks for that! I'm not even sure the family you describe was even poly, but they could ...more

Love Like an Ocean: Diving Deep into Polyamory

Before she knew what polyamory was, she thought she was defective and unfit to be in a relationship. After years of disappointing her partners, she resigned herself to remaining single. And then she discovered that love could take many more forms than monogamy. This is her story. ...more
What do you do when you know that you want to spread your love polyamorusly but your partner who ...more

In Praise of Monogamy

People who act apologetic for being monogamous, usually do so because they've been overexposed to "polyvangelists" who argue that non-monogamy is "better" or "more evolved." This is silly! Liking monogamy doesn't have to be justified and liking monogamy is a perfectly awesome reason for preferring monogamy. ...more

I say whatever works. I'm a serial monogamist and someday I hope to find "the one." I agree that ...more

Gay? Straight? Bi? Why?

Allena Gabosch (the co-founder and Executive Director of The Center For Sex Positive Culture) and I enjoyed a Slutty Redhead and a Moscow Mule as we discussed fomenting sexual revolution. There are worse ways to spend an evening – but not many better ways....more


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i realized that i mention 1.0, 2.0 and 3.0 here when they appeared on my blog for the first time ...more

"The Freebie" and Its Bizarre Self-Help-for-Swingers Web Site

Don't tell the pope, but today -- Friday, September 17 -- is (unofficially) National Freebie Day. The producers of the new film The Freebie -- about a long-married couple who decide to give each other a free pass so that they can each have a fling with someone else -- would like to give married folk everywhere permission to tuck a condom in their pocket and go hit the bars in search of whatever it is they don't have at home. ...more

There may be something to it.. Getting some strange as it were is sex you can't get with your ...more

Need an answered prayer?

JMJ Do you have a prayer request? A special need?  Well, I spent all night placing a live webcam to Lourdes, France on my website, including a little mailbox to their prayer request email.  All kinds of weird computer problems kept cropping up, and I kept offering them up as a prayer, which did help to keep me from being annoyed.  Then... This morning I got an email from a friend who told me that today is OUR LADY OF LOURDES FEAST DAY!  Wow.  I had no idea!  That is just so cool... ...more

Please Help Tell the Story of Our Sex Lives

Many of us remember the day we first ran across Our Bodies, Ourselves, as something of a revelation; perhaps you even picked up the more recent edition of the same book focused on menopause. But have you wished your voice was in there too?...more