HotMoviesForHer: 20 Questions with Cyd

The first time I saw Cyd in Roulette, I was smitten. Within days, he started popping up every where I looked – at the crash pad, on the cover of the first issue of Original Plumbing and in the promo images I downloaded for Courtney Trouble’s Speakeasy. I decided I had to know more, so I sent him an email and discovered that there’s a lot more to my latest crush than his boi-ish good looks!...more

Precious and The Representation of Blacks in the Media: Do we care too much about what others think?

The release of the movie Precious has gotten black folk atwitter....more

Hi, Laina,

I have said that I wouldn't comment any more on blog posts about this ...more


I want to be the first one to wish everyone good cheer as we head into the holiday season.I came across this fabulous cookbook and it left an indelible impression on me. I spend way to much stop in therapy sessions with lovers, and not enough time wining and dining my lovers into a seductive trance that results in hours of passionate lovemaking....more

A Stitch In Time... Doesn't Necessarily Save Your Nethers

I hadn't realized that this was actually something that real women actually did, but apparently it is: vaginal cosmetic surgery is maybe not as popular as Botox, but women are getting it done. The thing is, according to a British study, getting your hoo-hah snipped carries a lot of risks. More risks than Botox. About the same amount of risk as female genital mutilation.I know. I squeezed my legs together, too. You might as well keep yours squeezed, because this topic doesn't get any prettier....more

The doctor that delivered my 2nd child made a big point of saying that he did an extra-good ...more

Real Christian Girl: Sex and the Ministry

            As Christians, we spend so much of our time worshiping perfection that it is had for us to tell others about our imperfections. We spend so much time projecting to unbelievers stereotypes that we forget we are human. ...more
So.. as a Christian girl... do you have sex with the men you date?       No judging here. As a ...more

Stay Present!

Here’s an email I got recently:“I wanted to thank you also for your story about "presence" that you told at your talk recently at Open Secret Book Store in San Rafael. I had an important experience of that this weekend. I have been contemplating dating a man I met recently who is a financially successful lobbyist, and we have many other interests aside from politics. The wining and dining is great, but when we're together, it is odd: he is always distracted by his cell, a meeting, not enough time, etc....more

Homecoming: Getting Off Without Getting Out

 What genius coined the word ‘staycation’? We think it sucks. Vacations are a time for relaxing, exploring, renewing! You should be shedding responsibility and giving life’s everyday worries a rest! But: staycation? Uh-uh. This term gives us an icky, static, stuck-in-the house feeling… it’s a command for a bitch (not you sugar, we mean your dog), not an invitation to depart from the everyday....more

Oh, I love love love Taboo! Balderdash is great too. As a writer, I bet you'd love ...more

Secrets & Lies

Have you ever cut the price tag off a new dress so your boyfriend or husband wouldn’t find out what it REALLY cost? Have you ever told your friend she looks thin and great when in fact she looks awful? Have you ever secretly been attracted to someone other than your partner? Have you ever lied about how much money you make? Have you ever covered up for your kids? Have you gotten Botox and not disclosed? Have you ever faked an orgasm?...more

Does Nancy Pelosi, Speaker of the House, Orgasm?

When I look at our illustrious Speaker of the House, Nancy Pelosi, I find myself wondering ‘when was the last time she had an orgasm? Or even got laid?’   ...more

Man On The Fence

Ladies, I have decided to shake things up a little. We will now have a new ANONYMOUS MALE Guest Blogger who will show up every so often on this blog. His goal is to explain to us ladies, from a man’s perspective, that men too sit on the fence with many issues. I wanted him to tell us about his life as a great hands-on single dad raising three beautiful kids, and the fence issues that arise for him, but he didn’t want to do it that way. Instead, he wanted to kick off post #1 with another light-hearted point of view. ...more