Five Myths About Losing Your Virginity

The first time I had sex, there was no blood. It wasn’t painful, either. In fact, it was pretty damn fantastic, but I was super freaked out because, contrary to everything I’d ever heard about how my first time was going to go, my hymen didn’t break. When I told a friend, she told me that she had to have sex a couple times before hers broke. We tried a couple more times, and still nothing. Did something happen to me when I was younger that I didn’t remember? Was I a freak? To be honest, I was really scared. ...more
TerriLynnMerritts  The statement that 63% of women don't experience pain was based on an actual ...more

What I Learned By Having Sex on the First Date

We are all grown up enough to know that not every date we go on is going to be exactly the same. Some are going to make for great stories because you had to tell the guy your lips weren't chew toys. Some are going to end after one coffee and an awkward handshake. Some will end in explosive orgasms and that is that....more
mryjhnsn Throw them at the guys who say girls can't have casual sex. Can't forget them! :)more

Masturbation: The White Elephant in the Room

Being my normal bookworm self, I was reading a book Hooking Up (there are plenty of books out there but I don't recommend this one) and it was talking about how humiliated the author was about saying she masturbated and I realized holy shit, this is a real problem. I used to be the same exact same way....more

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You, Me, And Hitachi: How To Introduce Your Partner To Adult Toys

  A coworker of mine (thankfully, long before I started working for Spicy Gear), once said, “Any girl who has a vibrator and isn’t single is disrespecting her man.”“WOAH,” I said, “that’s so not true. What about girls in long-distance relationships?”“Well, I guess I could sort of see that.”...more
SnarkySass  Glad to hear you've had success in the past sharing toys! It's really not so hard, ...more

Let's talk about our "numbers"....

Alright ladies, let's talk about our "number" in a new blog free of judgement where I will be sharing all of my best stories, answering your questions, and exploring all of our favorite topics that we may not want to admit to liking with our friends.So, what's YOUR number? Mine, is 22. Tell me why you have this number.. how many did you love? How many did you sleep with and never see again? Details! How many are still in your life?...more


Well Valentine’s Day has come and gone, giving me an eye opening experience that as a women it has brought tears to my eyes.See what happened was…Waking up to find myself alone was not fun nor was it something I really wanted to experience.  Needless to say I said a fond farewell to my friends after replacing the items I used during that one night of FP fun, and yes I did wave my freak flag high and he captured it again and again.  He did leave me a car and a fabulous driver who also walked out of the store with a large bag of her own. ...more

Awkward Nakedness

Life with kids is never dull, and just when I think I’m getting the hang of it, one or both of my two kids will throw me a curve ball.  My girl is seven (almost eight) and a quiet observer.  Fiercely loyal, a good friend, empathetic almost to a fault, she doesn’t like crowds but desperately wants to relate to people.  My almost-five boy, on the other hand, can work a crowd like a politician, has amazing comedic timing, and a brain that scares me a little.  He’s an extrovert in a family of introverts.My nephew’s wife recently had a baby, which brought lots of questions out of the little guy.“How did the baby get in her tummy?”“God put it there.”“How?”“With love.”“Yeah, but how?”...more


When I got back home, I immediately called the guy I was dating, to recount my horrid little tale.  He seemed appropriately shocked and amused, so I invited him over.I was still sore from rolling around in an icy alley, so it was nice to get a back rub and have some male attention after visiting the bear den. I had met Scottie a few months earlier, on a free dating site. He was quiet and down to Earth, but mostly… he was really, really good in bed.  Which, to be honest, was all I was looking for at the moment....more

50 Shades of BDSM For Beginners

When the 50 Shades of Grey novels first started becoming popular, some of my friends who are in theBDSM scene (and have been for years) were excited that their particular brand of play was getting some national attention. But that joy quickly faded when they realized something– while housewives all over the country were getting their jollies off on these books, they weren’t portraying realistic, and, more importantly, healthy BDSM relationships....more
It IS sometimes about the pain.  Pain can feel good and invigorating.  There is nothing wrong ...more