Rape Fantasies After a Sexual Assault?!

I was 17. It was summer -  I remember the sound of the cicadas. I remember a feeling of desperate panic, and a very sudden realization that there was absolutely nothing I could do.His penis didn't enter my vagina, so it wasn't called rape.  It was called an "unfortunate situation", and a few people whispered about underage drinking and its unintended consequences....more
pddotnet EXACTLY! I felt so... wrong. Ashamed. How could I really have been traumatized if I had ...more

Milk and Nookie: Breastfeeding and Sex

You might not be enjoying breastfeeding because you and your partner aren’t connecting. Perhaps one or both of you think that is because of breastfeeding.I wanted this blog post to be about your partner. I want to give you some really deep insights about how your partner’s support or lack of support can really affect your level of breastfeeding enjoyment.But, I can’t.  Why? Because I don’t know anything about daddies.  I talk to mamas all the time about their feelings, their struggles, and their fears. I feel like I get you ladies....more

What Is Porn Teaching Us About Desire and Consent?

Anal sex.  Everybody's doing it... or so the internet would have us believe. In today's money shot culture, images of women being bent over have become commonplace....more
I have a feeling this answer isn't going to be popular, but part of the problem you're ...more

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It's in His Head: Does Size Matter?

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What's the Deal With "Steak And Blow Job Day"?

When I first heard about "Steak and Blow Job Day," I cracked up laughing. My husband of seven months insisted that this "holiday," celebrated on March 14, was a day for men to be treated special. He said that I had to cook him a steak and give him a blow job to show him my appreciation. Since these were two things I did regularly, I shrugged him off; what made March 14th any different? He then asked, "Well don't you want extra special things on Valentine's Day? Don't I get you flowers all the time?" I had to admit that he had a point, so I humored him and looked online for more information because I wasn't convinced he wasn't pulling my chain. ...more
Reading outraged women on this subject makes me laugh really hard! Some of you take life WAY too ...more

50 Shades of TMI?

 Propaganda for 50 Shades of Grey is everywhere. Not only are snippets flashing across the flat screens in our private living rooms, they're popping up on covers of magazines at the doctors office, and on the radio as we drive our kids to school....more

Dearest Readers

Dearest readers,Can we talk?I wanna tell you a secret.In my not-so-distant past, I've settled for less.I've journeyed the rugged, tar-black roads of lies about who I am.  Maybe you’ve traveled similar paths.  If so, you know the routes spewing filth and dust. The kind of dust that sticks to your skin like black tar, lingering for days, weeks, years. Whispering lies about who you are....more

How to Feel Sexy on Valentine's Day With Health Issues

Valentine's Day is approaching, and while many people plan romantic evenings, the holiday can put a lot of pressure on those of us struggling with infertility or chronic illness. The combination of medication, fluctuating hormones, and vacillating emotions often results in a complete lack of libido. So what can you do if infertility or chronic illness has left you feeling not-so-frisky this February 14th? Here are five tips to help you celebrate and enjoy even if you're not "in the mood." ...more

50 Shades of My Opinion!

Fifty Shades of Grey comes out this weekend.  I confess, I've read the whole book series, and you know what? For the most part, I liked it.  Sure, it's not realistic, according to the true BDSM -ers (if you haven't checked out Fetlife.com, you don't know about serious BDSM -ers), but for us "mostly vanilla" folks, it's fun fantasy fodder (go me, with the alliteration!).  I know that when I first read it, and got to the "checklist," it caused quite a frank discussion among my lady-friends and my husband....more