Sexting Expert: Teens Should Not Have Cameras on Cell Phones
by Nordette

Concerned your daughter may send naked pictures of herself to her boyfriend? Then you should not have given her a cell phone with a camera says, Dr. Sari Locker, a CNN contributor, sextologist, and Columbia University adolescent psychology professor.

In a segment with CNN anchor Mike Galanos, Locker responds to the news story about Kings County, Wash., cheerleaders of Brothell High School (the name's now a surefire pun) who sent nude photos to their boyfriends via cell phone text message. It's called "sexting."

The Seattle Post-Intelligencer has more details

Parents of two Bothell High School cheerleaders have sued the Northshore School District, alleging school officials erred when they suspended the girls from the team this year after nude photos of them circulated throughout the student body via text message.

School officials learned of the photos in August after receiving copies from a source they have not named, according to the lawsuits. In early September, the two teens were suspended from the cheer squad -- one for 30 days and the other for the entire school year.
The Seattle P-I is not naming the families because doing so would identify the girls, who are minors.

Both lawsuits, filed Monday in King County Superior Court, accuse school administrators of violating the girls' due process rights, needlessly sharing the photos with other school staff members and failing to promptly report the matter to police as possible child pornography. (SeattlePI.com

Locker says the girls sent the pictures as a result of pressure to perform, partner pressure, and because their parents indulged them with cell phones that have cameras. Locker shows in the clip that she carries a cell phone sans camera and believes there's no reason to have a camera on a cell phone.

She thinks the girls sent naked photos to hold on to their boyfriends who are watching porn on the Internet. You can view the CNN video below.


Viewers called into the show opining that the parents' lawsuit is unwarranted and people today don't take personal responsibility for their actions. One caller said it's the parents' fault for letting the girls have the camera cell phones and said if the parents don't know about this type of behavior, then what else don't they know about their daughters. Galanos took the calls and also called the lawsuit "ridiculous."

The Washington cheerleader sexting story reminds me of "The Fab Five" scandal, that Texas cheerleaders case in which girls on the cheerleading squad practically ran the high school, but no real action was taken until trashy photos showed up on MySpace.

The pictures posted on MySpace.com looked like the latest installment of "Girls Gone Wild." In them, cheerleaders from McKinney North High School in Texas exhibited all variety of bawdy behavior. One shot showed a bikini-clad girl sharing a bottle of booze with a friend. Another featured a cheerleader and several other girls in risqué poses offering glimpses of their panties. But the most infamous photo of all was taken in a Condoms To Go store. Five smiling cheerleaders dressed in uniform posed with large candles shaped like penises. At least one of them appeared to be simulating fellatio. "It would be an overstatement to describe any of the photographs as pornographic, but it would be an understatement to describe them as harmless high jinks," wrote Harold Jones, a lawyer hired by the school district to investigate the incident. "Quite frankly, I personally found it 'creepy'." (Newsweek)

So far, however, the Washington state story seems to differ in that the two girls were trying desperately to impress boyfriends and not bully others or ruin the lives of everyone around them. It may come out later that they were hell on wheels as well. Who knows? For now it seems they are simply misguided teens.

Their parents appear to be suing because school officials passed the photos around and didn't view their daughters as potential victims of child pornography.

Both the Texas and Washington cheerleader cases have elements that may support Locker's take on young women in our celebrity culture. The sexologist thinks the girls' desire to be like the celebrities they idolize influenced them to send the nude photos. Celebrity females tend to take off their tops in our society, asserts Locker.

I think she's partly correct, but she may be missing a piece. I suspect the girls are also testing their sexual appeal and probably lack the self esteem and wisdom to find another way to do that.

In addition, I can't find the study, but I've heard of one that reports high school girls who do not have boyfriends are happier than girls who have boyfriends. Girls with boyfriends tend to focus on keeping the boyfriend happy. However, high-school boys with girlfriends are happier and do better in school because having a girlfriend improves their status and builds self-esteem. That study would support Locker's opinion that he girls felt pressure to hold on to their boyfriends and were so anxious to please them they did something stupid.

About those Texas cheerleaders, the Fab Five story became a Lifetime Network movie told through the eyes of the cheerleaders' coach who lost her job. The coach said she and others were victims of the failure of the principal, who was mother of one of the cheerleaders, and other parents to control the high school girls. In the movie, each time the coach tried to discipline the girls, a parent or the principal would undermine her efforts.

Here's a clip from that movie showing the Texas cheerleaders going to a sex toy store, exhibiting the bravado of young women who think they're cute and untouchable to authority.



Ironically, the Galanos CNN clip about the Washington state cheerleaders sexting naked pictures of themselves was followed by an unrelated CNN I-Report from "Naked News Boy" (J.Son Dinant), saying he's happy about former football star O .J. Simpson's recent sentence on kidnapping and assault charges. Yes, Naked Boy does the news in the nude.

I suppose it's o.k. for him to report news in his birthday suit because he's not a minor, doesn't expose anything below the shoulders, it seems, and he's not a girl. Naked Boy declares that he tells the news the way it really is, naked. I wonder how many hits his site gets from people thinking he really is a naked boy.

Nordette is a BlogHer Contributing Editor whose personal blog is WSATA. This Brothell High cheerleader post is crossposted there.

Comments

 

This is a really interesting

This is a really interesting phenomenon and I think it's only the beginning. I had a discussion with my family over Thanksgiving as to the "new age" of parental control. Over the past 10 years there has been an explosion of new technologies that allow teens to communicate with out parental supervision i.e: you can't hear what/when your kid is texting, camera phones, video phones, facebook, myspace, twitter and a handfull of other things that most parents don't even know how to use! I'm interested in how most parents are coping.

 

 

Great point

you can't hear what/when your kid is texting, camera phones, video
phones, facebook, myspace, twitter and a handfull of other things that
most parents don't even know how to use! I'm interested in how most
parents are coping.

And I also would like to hear more about what parents think and how they cope with it.

Nordette is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is WSATA, and she's finally taken the dive into Tw

 

Technology ups the ante and the dangers

U wrote provocative journal entries growing up and provocative poetry which I sometimes read aloud.  I am so glad I didn't have today's technology at my disposal before my had caught up to what to reveal and who to reveal it to. 

I do think the soical networking sites, celebrity news on all media, images of celebrities doing sexually provocative (and down right sexual) things on line, etc., makes girls more prone to repeat these behaviors.  They can also learn how to be more provocative by cruising you tube, etc.

Discretion, privacy are hard to come-by and many teens don't even try.

When you are young, being enamored of your beautiful new adult-looking body and wrestling with your sexuality is part of what you have to learn to navigate.

As always, talking with your children, doing "what-if" scenarios with them, discussing privacy and intimacy and technology (using real-life cases), etc.  Parents have to be on top of things.  Teenagers and young adults need as much parenting as toddlers albeit in a different form.

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Our own skeletons

Yep, there are things we did and thought as teens that if revealed would have mortified us. Today's teens are broadcasting what may later come back to haunt them.

Nordette is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is WSATA, and she's finally taken the dive into Tw

 

You've Come A Long Way, Baby?

No doubt, this generation has access to more sexually explicit material through a variety of mediums than in generations past.  I don't have daughters but I am one.  Growing up at the back end of the bra-burning era, I know how hard women fought for equality. I know how hard it is for women in the workplace from first hand experience and I know how much inequity there can be in the home. It saddens me that young women buy into the pressure of this type of "Girls-gone-wild performance" when they  have the opportunity to have so much more.   My three sons are 15, 12 and 9 and I hope that when they've grown I've been able to help them understand the fact that girls/women are more than just their body parts.  Parents have an obligation to keep in step with technological advances and to talk to our kids even when they tune us out.  I think we've only seen the tip of the iceberg with situations like this.  I'm not sure a law suit is necessarily the answer, but it certainly brings the discussion to the forefront.  That is never a bad thing.

 

The lawsuit

I had a similar thought.  The lawsuit gives us the chance to discuss it as more than just another teen scandal. Thank you for commenting.

Nordette is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is WSATA, and she's finally taken the dive into Tw

 

This scares me

My daughter is 3 1/2, and I'm not sure what to make of this.  I'm scared to think of where technology will take us in the next decade or so, as she becomes a teenager.  Can I keep up?  Can I equip her to navigate these issues?  I'd like to think so, but the truth is I have no idea.

~ Amber

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Is technology at fault?

Amber, I don't think you have to worry. I don't think technology is at fault because there are lots of teen girls with camera phones and web pages who don't send out nude photos to their boyfriends, just as there have always been gorgeous women who could pose for PlayBoy but choose not to do so. 

Hate to sound cliche, but I think the problem is either the girls are really cocky and think they live by a different set of rules than other girls or their lives as popular cheerleaders are a facade and they have a hole that needs filling.  I base this on the girls wanting to impress their boyfriends.  If you feel whole, you don't try to impress others with bells and whistles. 

So, I think this situation is more the result of cultural and psychological issues related to the girls' environment and experience.

Technology's only contribution to this scandal is that it made it easier to send a naked picture quickly, which gives a cluttered mind less time to review actions. 

Nordette is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is WSATA, and she's finally taken the dive into Tw

 

Fatal Flaws...

My best friend recently was telling me that a group of her daughters friends (including the daughter) was changing to go swimming and taking camera phone pictures of each others panties.  In short time, one of the girls who was feeling left out of the group emailed the pictures from her phone to her email list.  All of the girls near naked butts ended up circulating throughout the email of their high school! 

Now, that is scary and embarassing yes.  More scary?  Ready...if it ends up on a MySpace page or the wrong email....sexual predators!

It is vital that we teach young women to use technology intelligently.  It could be very damaging!!  I tell this to women every day!

~~Dee

 

Teaching self control to our children

Thanks, Dee.  It's scary how fast technology lets someone act on vindictiveness.  When I think about this in terms of adults use of technology, I recall websites that let people put up pictures of cheating spouses and boyfriends.   You can ruin someone';s reputation with a false accusation.  But in the end, it seems, we're still fighting what we're always fighting, negative human emotions and emotional confusion with a lack of maturity. 

Giving our children access to technology without teaching them boundaries and to follow the golden rule when using technology is very much like having a gun in the house with the safety off and not teaching that maiming and murder is wrong.  Sure, you could kill someone hitting the person over the head with a rock, a much older way to kill, but a gun is faster.  And you don't have to get close to the person to pull the trigger.

We don't have to have guns in the house, but increasingly we do need some form of high tech in our homes to communicate with the outside world.  Some schools now require that students have computers at home.  Therefore, the no guns in the house rule is difficult to apply.  Parents will need to work this issue out with their children the hard way, through love, discipline, and thoughtful talk.

So, perhaps we could say that new communications technologies amplifies our lack of self control and so we need to work harder to teach our children to practice self control.

Nordette is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is WSATA, and she's finally taken the dive into Twitter.

 

THIS IS A SERIOUS MATTER

 

This should be an action for this. Parents need to double there time talking or disipline there teenagers about such behavior. It's very scary and needs to worry about because there integrity is at sake!

Thanks for  the post in this way we should be alarmed!

Debra Morrsion

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"Responsible teenager" is NOT always an
oxymoron.

Yes, there are some teens who make bad decisions. Of course we know about them, because they get the media's attention. Their situations have a lot more to do with peer pressure, low self-esteem, and inadequate support networks than their age. There are plenty of teenagers out there who have camera phones and somehow manage not to take naked pictures of themselves to circulate. The real solution is not to ban teens from getting camera phones till their hormones settle down, but to have open dialogue with your daughters about what is and what is not appropriate.

Not all teenagers are like the girls in this situation, though, and that is so frustrating for me, as a college student. People will generalize, as they usually do. There are so many responsible citizens in my generation that get overlooked for the few that make colossal mistakes.

 

Agree, but

 It is really up to the parents tho, not anyone else.

 

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