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Shaniya Davis, Dead at 5, a Story Nearly as Ugly as the Movie Precious

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CNN and bloggers report that the body of 5-year-old Shaniya Davis of Fayetteville, NC, has been found. Earlier today 200 people searched for the child's body after police received a tip that she was dead, say news sources.


Police have charged the girl's mother, Antoinette Nicole Davis, with trafficking and other offenses, authorities said. Davis was "prostituting her child" ...

... The mother told police last week that the child vanished from their mobile home in Fayetteville.

Hotel surveillance video taken around the same time Shaniya was reported missing showed the girl with a man identified as Mario Andrette McNeill. He was charged with first-degree kidnapping.(CNN)

The Hinterland Gazette, a blog of black political thought, also posted on this sad story. Shaniya, a biracial child, black mother/white father, had been missing since November 10.

That's her mother's mugshot to the left. McNeill, her boyfriend, who is also black, has a similar look. He confessed on Friday to kidnapping Shaniya, per CBS News. Janet Shan at The Hinterland Gazette wrote the mother and boyfriend should be waterboarded, and that was before Shaniya's body was found.

From the Charlotte Observer:

Shaniya's father, Bradley Lockhart, told The Associated Press that he raised his daughter for several years but last month decided to let her stay with her mother.

... Shaniya had only been living with her mother since last month. Davis reported the girl missing Tuesday morning from a mobile home community in Fayetteville, and authorities began searching nearby wooded areas. The following day a man described as Davis' boyfriend was charged in the kidnapping, but the charges were later dropped and he was released. Charlotte Observer/Associated Press.

At BlogHer.com last week I posted my review of Sapphire's novel Push on which the movie Precious is based. It's in part the story of a black girl being sexually abused and more by her parents, both her mother and her father. With the release of the movie, some black folks are up in arms that black people would be portrayed this way, as though amongst black people are only angels, no demons ever.

Both Laina Dawes and Megan Smith have covered how black people respond to negative images, bickering down to the finest points even such as why Ms. Rain, the savior school teacher, becomes light-skinned in the movie when she was dark-skinned with dreadlocks in the novel.

Oh, how I wish more than ever now that director Lee Daniels had made Ms. Rain dark with dreadlocks in the movie Precious as Sapphire makes her in the novel. Seeing the picture of Shaniya's mother, I wish Antoinette Davis could have been a Ms. Rain and not what seems like a dreadlocked, skinny version of Mary Jones, the abusive mother of Precious fiction.

Megan, who is African-American, saw the movie and was honest enough in her post to share that as she watched it, she grew angry at men in general, black men especially, despite knowing intellectually that child abuse is an equal opportunity destroyer across ethnic groups. Furthermore, she says she despised Mary Jones, played by Monique.

At this moment, so soon after seeing the movie, I hate men so much I can barely stand it. I especially hate black men because I'm black and feel ashamed to share even a tiny bit of the same heritage of a man who would do this.

You see, I've met Mary. I've met Precious. Maybe we weren't close, maybe we weren't related but I know that in my life, I've met them both.

Sitting in that crowded theatre, watching the fictional Mary do her dirty work, all I could think was that I hated her. (Megan Smith)

Laina made a clear point in her discussion of black people's reactions to the movie Precious that indicate some of us may be more concerned about white people's impression of black people and the black image than cruelty to children and addressing our own dysfunction:

And instead of being ashamed when a story, a difficult, harrowing story in which I believe (despite my concerns about Daniels) is a story that could potentially start some frank and honest discussions - not about Sidibe's weight or how dark she is or how attractive she is - but about what we are going to do about the real boys and girls who are facing these issues. In our

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lynngre 5 pts

The image of her being carried into a hotel lift by that sicko is so sad.  If only someone knew what she was about to go through.  It's not about race.  This happens in all areas of society. Poor angel.  RIP.

Lynn

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Erin Kotecki Vest 5 pts

Taking a look now

Politics & News Contributing Editor Erin Kotecki Vest ( http://queenofspainblog.com/ )

Nordette Adams 6 pts

Erin, many cities have CASA programs, Court Appointed Special Advocates for children. One way to help is to become a CASA.

CASA is the only volunteer organization that empowers everyday citizens as officers of the court. In an overburdened social welfare system, abused and neglected children often slip through the cracks among hundreds of current cases. CASA volunteers change that. Appointed by judges, CASA volunteers typically handle just one case at a time—and commit to staying on that case until the child is placed in a safe, permanent home. While others may come and go, CASA volunteers provide that one constant that children need in order to thrive. (website ( http://www.casaforchildren.org/site/c.mtJSJ7MPIsE/... ))

If you don't have the time for such a commitment, you can always donate money to program ( http://www.casaforchildren.org/site/c.mtJSJ7MPIsE/... ). When the commercials run down here, I think I should do it, but I may have to stick to donations until I have the time and clear head to do more.

Nordette Adams ( http://www.bookotopia.com ) is a BlogHer CE ( http://www.blogher.com/haystackprofile/viewprofile... ) & you can find her other stuff through Her 411 ( http://her411.com ).

Erin Kotecki Vest 5 pts

We need to do this. We need to do that. We need. We need. 

But HOW?

I need to know HOW. 

Politics & News Contributing Editor Erin Kotecki Vest ( http://queenofspainblog.com/ )

Lovebabz 5 pts

I've done a lot of good in my life...and I've done some fucked up shit.  But I NEVER HURT A KID. Thank you all for thinking anything I had to say on this ugly soul-breaking stuff has value and merrit.  I love being a mother...it is redeeming to me.  It is healing and uplifting.

There are moments in all our lives that we must answer the call of our time.  Children need to be protected.  If they (our children) survive the ordeal of being sold into sexual slavery, they will need loving people to help give themselves back to themselves.  That is the hardest work.  There is not a day goes by that I do not have some memory.  I carry weight on my body because to be smaller is to be 9 again and I am not ready to release or make enough peace to lose the weight.

I am not brave, nor courageous...I am tired of these stories that drag me back to a time when fear, pain  and uncertainty was my life.

Let us all collectively pray that no more children suffer, then lets all get off our asses and do something...write a check...volunteer and YES adopt our broken, abused and abandoned children.

I may not be the mother my kids deserve, but I am the one who loves them with my life.

Be loving & Be in LOVE

Denise 9 pts moderator

I have so much respect for your honesty and for your willingness to share such personal details about your life. We need more women like you, brave women who can stand up and say this happened to me and here's how I've moved on to be who I am.

Thank you.

~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
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Megan Smith 5 pts

Hi Lovebabz,

Thank you so much for your honesty.  It was very courageous of you to talk about what happened to you as a child.

You're an amazing woman and your children are very lucky to have you as a mom and a role model.

Megan
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Mata H 5 pts

I am so sorry that no one protected you. God bless you for protecting other children, and for having the courage to speak of it here. I hope that your story and the story of Precious helps other children. It hurts to bring such intimate and horrible pain to the light. But it helps heal as well. It has me asking what I can do now.

~~ Contributing Editor, Mata H. also blogs right along at Time's Fool ( http://timesfool.blogspot.com )

Nordette Adams 6 pts

Yes, Lovebabz, we are failing our children. I wrote in a post on my blog a while back, one that got no comments, how much we let seep into our culture to corrupt our healthier values because we're busy protecting people's feelings, because we're afraid to be told we're not supportive of "the race." But being supportive does not mean we have to accept any and everything--toxic attitudes and messages, destructive behaviors--that poison us.

And on these particularly abominable crimes against children we must not be silent. We must hide no one. Protect no one unless we are hiding and protecting a child from her/his abuser. And yes, this is not a problem exclusive to African-Americans. Across the nation in every neighborhood, rich or poor, some child has a story to tell that should shame us.

Thank you for sharing honestly with us. I don't think I'd have the courage to say something like this without weeks of fasting and prayer, but I know that you are a woman of courage. I'm always happy to hear your voice on your Love Talk podcasts ( http://www.blogtalkradio.com/lovebabz-lovetalk ), and I marvel at what you're doing for your children, children who you do not fail. You are a testament that what could destroy us doesn't have to.

Be in peace always.

Nordette Adams ( http://www.bookotopia.com ) is a BlogHer CE ( http://www.blogher.com/haystackprofile/viewprofile... ) & you can find her other stuff through Her 411 ( http://her411.com ).

BrownImani 5 pts

Thank you so much for standing up and saying "this happened to me". Don't be angry with those of us that say how sad and horrible it is and how we wish we didn't have to hear about this. It is not that we don't want to hear it, we don't want it to happen ever again. There will be no hope for children on planet Earth when people can hear these stories and have no response. This is heartbreaking and sick and it is hard to imagine and hear about a child going through this and dying unrescued. I hear a story like this everyday now. I don't know if it is happening more or if the shameless media just feels more comfortable sensationalizing it.

I was at work when I heard that her body had been found. Some of my co-workers wept-men and women. I thought this was something else-like a child custody dispute or something and the mom was hiding the baby. It never occurred to me...I was caught off guard with this one. Yes, let's protect children. But it is very hard to do when the bad that happens to them is done behind closed doors at the hands of their own family.

Rita Arens 7 pts

Lovebabz, my blood just ran cold when I read your comment. I have a daughter. Your story breaks my heart and also pisses me off that anyone would treat you so poorly.

The community has to keep watching out for each other. We have to.

Rita Arens writes at Surrender Dorothy ( http://surrenderdorothy.typepad.com ) and BlogHer and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ).

Gina Carroll 5 pts

Lovebabz, thank you for sharing your story...and you are so very right. Perhaps we focus on other issues because we are devastated and ashamed and afraid. Devastated and ashamed because we have all failed Shaniya. We failed you, Lovebabz..and we continue to fail children who we are charged to care for and protect. We are afraid, perhaps, because we have gotten so very far off center that we can hear a story like this and move on to the next thing tomorrow--the next story, the next tragedy and the next proof of failure.

Megan, you are so right, as well! We Black folks have to snap out of this complacent place. We have legitimate issues about media and racial perceptions. But we need to go old school about placing responsibility where it lies.

As Lovebabz so eloquently intimated, don't get sad and weepy, mothers! Get PISSED and do something for the babies nearest you that are not safe and that do not have the protection your own kids may have. They are out there...and they are closer than you think.

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Deb Rox 5 pts

These most heartwrenching of human stories require that we look deeply into one person's pain first, then the context.  So so hard to sit with that, because we can't indulge as many distractions, philosophies and pontifications.  But so important, especially to each and every victim, who doesn't want to be a statistic or an example of a trend or issue or demographic--one precious human being who was treated inhumanely.

Lovebabz, you are a testament to love, bravery and strength.  Much love to you.

Deb
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Lisa Stone 6 pts

You're right. We are failing children of all races; this crime has no known racial barriers.

...that and you are one brave, powerful mama. Bravo, lady. Thank you for this post.

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Heather Clisby 5 pts

Excellent post, Nordette - as always.

I must give major kudos to Lovebabz. In her comment, she shed harsh light on something that "happens to other people" and made us realize the problem is beyond race. She is obviously brave and beautiful and no matter what happened in her childhood, this could not be taken away.

I'm so glad she is adopting, this kind of strength and love should be passed along.

~ClizBiz

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Lovebabz 5 pts

I know that folks...Black folks spefically will focus on the superficial crap of race and the deviation of the way the characters look from the book.  So what.  Race and gender and our color consciousness has its roots and should be discussed.  However in this context, the real issue is that a child was sold into sexual slavery by a parent.  White folks do this, Black folks do this, Asian folks do this, Hispanic/Latino folks do it.  No one ethnicity owns the title of "The Only"  Our attention can't solely be focused on the the portrayal of characters in a book or movie and  the race of these people.  But that there are children suffering and we are not outraged enought before hand.  We are failing children.

My Father raped me and sold me for money for sex with strangers and other relatives.  This is not a family secret.  What we need to understand in all this is that no one protected me, no one protected that child.  NO PROTECTED HER.

I am tired of hearing people say how sad this is, how they hate hearing about this.  But then what?  What does your hatred and anger call you to do?  We need folks to PROTECT CHILDREN.

I believe we (Black Folks) find this nasty and ugly...close to the bone.  We know these stories too well.  Sexual abuse exists in our community...whispered and hushed.  We can't give more to these crimes because we are cowards and we can't wrap our minds around them.  This is my opinion.

I adopted 4 children because I couldn't rest knowing children were abused and in need of someone to care about them.  My first daughter we adopted was sold by her biological mother to an undercover cop.  That was her saving grace. 

We must Protect children...by any means necessary.

Be loving & Be in LOVE

Megan Smith 5 pts

Hi Nordette,

It's taken me a few days to even comment on this post because this story hurts my heart so much. 

After having seen "Precious," and being very much shaken by it, I agree with Laina and the questions you bring up about why the black community isn't more upset about the death of this child than Gabourey Sidibe's (the actress who plays Precious) weight or other unimportant "celebrity" aspects of the movie "Precious."

The sad fact is, and black people need to face it honestly, white people didn't kill this child.  What white people think of us didn't kill this child.  It appears that her black mother and one of her black mother's associates killed this child.

Until we accept that reality and determine that in our own families, rich, poor or whatever, we won't allow this to happen, we're going to continue wasting too much of our energy on things that don't matter nearly as much.

Megan
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nettalyce 5 pts

Nettalyce.  You can read more about me at nettalyce.blogspot.com.

My colleagues asked if our program should take our female residents to see the movie Precious.  I have yet to respond.  I was troubled to recognize that I had such conflictual reactions to this movie.  I haven't seen it yet but unfortunately in my career I have seen this story played out in real life countless times.  I have to admit that as one of the few african american administrators of my program, I did not necessarily want this movie about 'black folk' to become a topic of discussion.  This is ridiculous when I think about the fact that our program focusses on all types of abuse and we certainly confront this evil in all races.  Nevertheless I didn't want to add one more story about 'us' to the mix.  I remeber my father had a similar reaction to "The Color Purple" when it first hit theaters.  His point was that black men didn't need one more negative portrayal in the media.  At the time I thought he was being unnecessarily dramatic but here I am am having similar feelings several years later.  

I'm pretty sure I will eventually see the movie but I wonder if I will want to discuss it with my non- black colleagues.  Thank God our thoughts and feelings don't always have to make sense but we do have to have the courage to give them voice.  So here's to my confession.

masalachica 5 pts

That it even matters whether the person who was cast in Precious who plays the savior was light skinned or dark skinned.  So sad that this tragedy could even occur to this little girl.  I understand what you are saying - and by bringing up dreadlocks, your point was that it really SHOULDN'T matter.

And to most people, it doesn't.  The horror of the act does.  And the hope that justice will prevail, regardless of what the people responsible for this look like.

Stories like this make me so sad for children who never were given a chance. 

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Nordette Adams 6 pts

This article is tied to several other articles regarding the movie Precious and the novel Push through which black image has been scrutinized by critics of both the movie and novel. The novelist Sapphire uses a dark-skinned black woman with dreadlocks, Ms. Rain, as a savior figure in her novel Push, perhaps in part because darker blacks with dreadlocks are seen as suspicious and criminal figures in popular culture, especially movies.  If a reader is unfamiliar with the book or movie as well as long-standing debates about blackness, hair, and image, then this post may seem complicated because it's about more than one crime against one child.

In the movie Precious, which is based on the novel, the savior figure is not a dark-skinned woman with dreadlocks. She is replaced by a light-skinned actress with straight hair, someone who looks nearly white, and some people take issue with the casting as a lost opportunity to put a positive image of a dark-skinned black woman with natural hair on the screen.

So, everything in context, this post is not only about the death of Shaniya but also about knee jerk responses by some black people to language and images of black people in the media, even when what is shown is factual, in very much the way you wondered why dreadlocks were mentioned in this post. Hair shouldn't have anything to do with anything but when it comes to the black image, natural hair and how those with natural hairstyles such as dreadlocks are portrayed is frequently part of the package and what some people fear or protect.

Nordette Adams ( http://www.bookotopia.com ) is a BlogHer CE ( http://www.blogher.com/haystackprofile/viewprofile... ) & you can find her other stuff through Her 411 ( http://her411.com ).

brownatural 5 pts

I'm sorry to say that this country, the Great (so-called) U.S. of A., killed her and has killed so many others. The more and more people get deeper in debt and into poverty, the more crimes you will see; and they get more heinous and crazy by the day. We have to do something more than just the talk of the day.

Also, I'm not sure why hair or hair style (dreadlock) was brought up in the article, but it has nothing to do with anything.

kdc521 5 pts

Race aside, this is one of those times that I am grateful for my faith.  Sad to say, but I believe that she has a better deal now than living such a hellish life! That poor little girl..

-Kimberly/Mom in the City

Jailhousedoc 5 pts

The mother who put her child in that situation will get jailhouse justice - people who cause harm to children like that are not tolerated by the other inmates, and thus the Correctional Officers where she will be placed will have their hands full keeping the other inmates away from her lest they do unto her worse than she did unto her child.  After working in jail for 14 years, I have seen this time and time again - the inmates have no tolerance for some things, and this is one of them.  Her co-defendant will get worse treatment - male inmates hate child molesters and will do whatever they can to get him.  Dante's inferno awaits the both of them - death will be a release. 

Expat Mum 5 pts

Given the horrific stories of Jaycee Dugard and Elizabeth Smart, (both white, with white kidnappers/rapists), together with the fundamentalist sect charges against female and male minors, I don't think many white people would look at your example and think that it was particularly a "black" crime.

I'm white and I'm not naive enough to think that no one makes assumptions based on appearances, but given the long, long list of white sexual criminals (women included), I think that most people would realise that this is not something that's color-based.

There are statistics which suggest African American missing kids don't get the same TV exposure as white kids so I'm only too pleased we have this plastered all over the place, no matter who the parents are. It is also raising the issue of children being sold into sex, which is yet to be proven, but it's something we need to look at in general.

Leighbra 5 pts

These are the stories that make me wish that I had a strong religious faith.

The belief that this little girl is in a better place of pure love, and that the people who did it would get everything they deserve for rest of eternity would make reading the news a lot more tolerable.

That poor dad, my heart breaks for him.

I won't be seeing Precious, the news is hard enough for me to stomach, and I don't have to watch that play out in real time.