Mafia or 'Lord of the Flies' -- Never Turn Your Back on Your Kids

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If you have more than one teenage boy, you have (probably) on at least one occasion dealt as I have with the rooster posturing, and growling boys tend to emanate when they become angry with each other.

If you are quick enough, you may even be able to stop it before it leads to fists flying at one another.

Name calling is a given, when they are actually happy with each other, as well as when they are angry.

However, have you ever wondered what goes on when you are not around?

I have always been pretty proud of my boys when they are not amongst the husband and me. Everyone always claims they are polite, and always helpful. Never rude.

However, what happens when you are close by? Do they behave if they are in their own home- and there is someone unrelated in that home?

What I have learned… my boys are a brutal mafia family. At least that’s what a friend told me. After she explained herself through spouts of laughter and giggles.

Mafia Family
Credit: daran_kandasamy.

Before we delve into that conversation, you first need to learn the rules. There is always a set of unwritten rules known by siblings.

There is the oldest: The no one fights for dominance unless they are sure they will win. He enslaves the lower class to do his bidding at all times.

There is the second in command. When the oldest isn't around, and someone needs to step into place, he's the one they call upon. Don't let the calm voice fool you however! He is always plotting his takeover of the oldest boy's spot.

The sleeper: He’s the one most ignore because he tends to stand idly by; not overly opinionated. He likes to watch for mistakes before he intervenes.

Then comes the brains, because let’s face it… there’s always the one who tends to be the brains of the bunch… always hiding in the shadows, only giving hints to what should be done without being noticed so as not to take the blame when things go bad.

Then there are the minions, cute little minions who tattle on the older ones, however they also tend to follow everyone around in hopes of someday gaining a respectful seat.

As a parent you learn to stay one step ahead at all times so you are not overthrown and lost to all anarchy.

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