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Teaching My Son to Dance

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He swooped in with one arm around my waist and grabbed my other hand in his.

As we glided around the kitchen floor, I asked him,

“Who taught you to dance?”

“My mom, of course,” he replied and nuzzled his face into my neck.

His mom. Of course.

She taught him to dance.

to open doors for ladies.

to do laundry.

to do dishes.

to help anyone who has his/her hands full. Figuratively and literally.

to iron.

to pick up the tab.

to listen to girls.

to hug often.

to help around the house.

to say, “I love you” freely.

to be the nice guy … even if it means finishing last.

He was her blond, curly-haired little buddy.

His dimply smile was his first “I love you.”

He was her first.

He made her a Momma.

She taught him to dance.

And so he glides through life as the kindest, most generous man I have ever met.

He waltzes through my days as my best friend.

His smile makes me better.

As I swoop Eddie up and bounce around the house with him in my arms to dance to whatever tune is in my head, his blond curls bob.

His dimples become deep caverns echoing his sweet laughter.

He throws his head back and squeals.

And he buries his face in my neck.

And I wonder…

Will he be kind?

Will he be generous?

Will he be respectful?

Will he tell his wife that his mom taught him to dance?

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation, writes creatively at Exploded Moments, and reviews books at Katie's Bookcase

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Life by Cynthia 5 pts

My eyes welled up. So beautifully written. Your post is one of my all time favorites. Cynthia

CharminglyChandler4 5 pts

Oh how this makes my eyes fill with tears!!

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ourgrowinggarden 5 pts

We have quite the responsibilty to raise young gentlemen in this world.

Breastfeeding, babywearing, first time mama writing about the trials, hilarity, and stickiness of motherhood. http://www.ourgrowinggarden.com ( http://www.ourgrowinggarden.com/ )

imperfectbird 5 pts

As a mother of two sons (and wife to one heck of a husband!) I read this post with tears in my eyes...and then they came streaming down when you said "he was her blonde, curly-haired little buddy"! My first baby boy has beautiful bouncing blond curls...and I love all the special moments we've spent together in the last 4 years. I can only hope that one day his future wife will be able to write such beautiful words about him :-)

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TelecommutingMom 5 pts

Great, great post. I always say the biggest compliment will be to raise my sons to be the best husbands they can possibly be. And then I hope there are other mothers out there in the world like you raising sons with this in mind as well that my daughters will find to marry.

Alaina http://www.telecommutingmommies.com

imnotasupermom 5 pts

Thank you for such a beautiful note. A note to remind me to sweep up my little man and teach him to dance, to open doors.....

My Site: I Am Not A Supermom ( http://imnotasupermom.com/ )  

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

Friends with daughters are EXACTLY who I am thinking about when I hope for my son to be like his dad.

thank YOU, my friend.

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

your comment is also lovely and touching. thank you for reading!

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

Oh Sherri...your words mean so much to me! thank you for "seeing" what I was trying to paint.

and yes, I feel so very sparkly!

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

It doesn't matter how badly we dance...it's that we spent the time to do it.

that is what will matter to them :)

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

thanks, you.

happy sighs for raising lovely little people.

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

Thank you!

Yes, I never realized the power mothers have until I actually became a mother.

It's a scary, awesome responsibility!

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

Thank you!!!

and yes, YAY!!! :)

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

Thank you so much my lovely friend!

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

it's funny, but even with the great responsibility of raising boys? I would totally love a little brother for Eddie some day. As much as I pray that I am doing right by him? I absolutely LOVE being a boy mom :)

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

I hope I am doing the right thing...every day I hope. I just want my little boy to be a kind man. It's my prayer every day!

Thanks for reading my words :)

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

Thanks, you. I appreciate you.

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

Thanks, you. Children in general are such a big responsibility...but making the right choices day by day to make right by them? That is the challenge!

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

I feel SO much pressure to do a good job! both my MIL and my own mom did amazing jobs with their sons...I feel like I don't want to let anyone down!

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

Thank you so much, Jessica. Raising daughters probably has a whole other pile of concerns and responsibilities! I can't even imagine!

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

Thanks so much friend. I appreciate you stopping by to give your support!

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

kris@prettyalltrue.com 5 pts

I have two daughters, and how I hope that somewhere there is a mother who is showing their future husbands how to be amazing men.

As you are doing with your son.

I love this post, Katie.

Thank you.

Pretty All True ( http://www.prettyalltrue.com/ )

jennifersirois 5 pts

Your post is lovely and touching! Thank you!

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

Yes...by shaping a caring, kind man, we make the world a more caring, kind place.

such responsibility.

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

Thanks, girl! It's such a responsibility raising sons, isn't it?

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

theoutcast 5 pts

So sweet!

The broader view of where these small moments can take us is to a better world. Moms are making the world better one son and daughter at a time!

I love this post and of course it made my eyes water!

Heather blogs about Motherhood & Other Offensive Situations at http://www.ultimateoutcasts.com.

sherrikuhn 5 pts

Katie, you did it again. You blow me away with your words, take me swinging down the hall in my mind with my little boy. Or my husband, who was once his momma's boy too.

I am so excited to see you over here and missed out on your first day since I was away on vacation!! Hope you're feeling all sparkly....you deserve it.

Sherri blogs at Old Tweener ( http://www.oldtweener.blogspot.com/ ), where she writes about parenting and anything else that makes her laugh (or cry) while living in those years between changing diapers and wearing them.

wth_amidoing 5 pts

What an awesome post! I'm going home & swooping up my big little guy & teaching him how to dance. Probably badly, but hey, better than nothing. Hehe

All these hopes and dreams we have for our boys and the men we imagine they will be. :)

moveovermaryp 5 pts

and you wrapped up my hopes for my little boy, right in a lovely piece of writing.

CDG
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PeggyAnnDesign 5 pts

i absolutely LOVE this post. its perfect.

2muchtestosterone 5 pts

I am head over heals in love with this post. It brought up some emotions for me. Since I mother three boys, I can only hope that at least one of them will be able to respond, "Oh, my mother taught me!" to a handful of questions they're asked later down the line. Hug on this little guy a little tighter and show him things a little slower and love on him forever and always!

What She Said 5 pts

My husband also has a very different relationship with his mother. They get along fine, but she wasn't the kind of mother who taught her son to dance. Instead, she "taught" him (by example) anxiety vs. self-confidence, and to look at life in a glass-half-empty kind of way. I didn't see this when we first met, but I see it now. Every day, I see the things she "taught" him. And I resent the hell out of her for it.

He's still a good, decent, loving and respectful man and I love him dearly, but he wasn't raised the way I would like to think I'd raise a son. So, yes... mothers of sons bear a huge responsibility. Use it wisely. Which it sounds like you're doing, and what your MIL did as well. You both sound like pretty freakin' amazing women. :)

Kristin (@Kalexa75 ( http://twitter.com/#!/Kalexa75 )) blogs about everything from motherhood to stink bugs at her virtual mind dump, That's What She Said. ( http://twss-blog.blogspot.com/p/who-she-is.html )

suzstreats 5 pts

Katie, I loved this post when I read it on your blog & so happy to read it here this morning. If we have a boy~ I hope to follow your lead & teach him to dance.

http://suzstreats.blogspot.com

jpcross 5 pts

I loved this when you posted it on your site and I still love it!

My hope is that we can all teach our sons to be the sort of man that everyone adores. The perfect gentleman.

Jessica D Torres 5 pts

I have 2 girls so I have no idea what it is like to raise a boy but it sounds like you are doing an excellent job. I love your writing and I enjoy reading your blog.

Cheryl @ Mommypants 5 pts

I loved this one and I'm so glad to see it featured over here!

Mommypants ( http://www.mommypants.com/ )

alexandraRS 5 pts

I also try to do this, I ask and tell myself, "I want this boy to be a good husband and father."

I think of how happy I want his wife to be and how I want her to say, "wow. Your mom did a terrific job."

This was beautiful.

punkinpie 5 pts

You rock, Katie!! amazing writing and i sure hope he says that to his wife too!! :) makes me wanna go in and squeeze my boy!!

Julia

www.workwifemomlife.com ( http://www.workwifemomlife.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

For all the daughters in the world? We try to raise Eddie like his daddy was raised.

I can't imagine having a girl. so many other worries.

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

you? are way too sweet. thank you my friend.

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

Thanks, you. I have always known that my husband was a great man. and now seeing him as a daddy to a son...it makes my heart sing with hope that Eddie will be like his daddy.

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

I've known my husband since elementary school. He has always been polite and wonderful. I so hope Eddie learns this from us too. It is my greatest prayer right now.

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

From Tracie 5 pts

So very beautiful...I hope that one day my daughter ends up with a man who was raised like this, and treats her this way.

KLZ 5 pts

With a mother as wonderful as you I can't imagine he wouldn't.

KLZ

http://www.taminginsanity.com

MamaRobinJ 5 pts

I love this post and I love that it's here.

My husband has a very...different relationship with his mother, but he's absolutely the kind of man I hope my son grows up to be.

LucindaA 5 pts

I hope my son learns just as much from me and even more from his dad who is an amazing man. His mom did a great job. I'm taking notes too. : )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

we moms of boys have such a huge responsibility. The minute they are born we wish for them happiness, but also that they will be gentlemen.

Thank you for reading my words.

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )

Sluiter Nation 5 pts

Thank you!!!

Katie Sluiter writes about life as a working mom at Sluiter Nation ( http://sluiternation.com ), writes creatively at Exploded Moments ( http://explodedmoments.wordpress.com ), and reviews books at ( http://katiesbookcase.com )