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Should I Let My Daughter Read My Journals?

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In 1977 I was a young mom with 2 small children. I started keeping a journal after my therapist suggested it would help me process my feelings. I got hooked and have been journaling ever since. I write in 9 x 12 blank journals and just started volume 50. It’s been very cathartic for me to write all these years but the big question on my mind is whether to let anyone see them.

Recently my daughter, who’s now a mother with two little girls, asked if I would read my journals and tell her things that I wrote about her. She said it would help her understand her behavior as a mom if she knew how I was when I was raising her.

I’ve started re-reading my first volume and it’s painful to read how unhappy I was back then. So I’m not sure what to do. Has anyone had any experience with reading their mother’s journals or could anyone offer some thoughts on this dilemma?

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Denise 11 pts moderator

I don't know your daughter. I don't know the relationship the two of you have. Without that type of information, I can't say yay or nay.

There are some people who take personal writing very, errr, personally. They can't put themselves into the time/place/situation. They can't separate the fact that they're reading about themselves from the act of journaling, the healing, the outlet, the stress relief, the self-exploration. To them, when they read, it's black and white, plain and simple - and it can hurt.

Other people get it. They can separate. And they can discuss openly with the writer - without defensive or passive agressive attacks.

Can your daughter handle it? Can you?

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