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Should a Single Woman Have a Will?

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I’m a 27-year-old female with no major health problems; someone who tries to take care of herself and make good food choices. I hope to be around for a long time, but you just never know. And if something did happen to me, what would happen to my assets?

I’m not wealthy, but the thing is, that doesn’t matter. I own my car outright, and I have a savings account and a retirement plan. The retirement plan is the only one where I had to designate a beneficiary, so it’s the only asset I have that would go to someone else automatically. (My older sister has been the sole beneficiary on my retirement plans for about ten years, through several jobs I’ve held during that time. Hers is the only social security number I know by heart, other than my own, so it’s easy to remember when I’m handed one of those HR forms to fill out – the first five digits are the same as my own.)

But what happens to the rest of it? I can assume my family would know to split up any assets I have between my siblings – but it’s not always that easy, right? Depending on the state where you live, it can get complicated. Assets aren’t always divided automatically between your next-of-kin if you haven’t designated that in advance.

What I ended up doing was buying access to the online version of Suze Orman’s Will & Trust Kit. No expensive lawyer to hire; no software to download – all I had to do was pull out my credit card and pay the one-time fee of $13.50. I haven’t gone through it yet – all I need now is a bit of uninterrupted free time – but it looks fairly simple. Fill out a questionnaire, and it automatically determines which documents you need so you don’t have to slog through all the options and determine which ones pertain to you.

Another task I need to do, which doesn’t require filling out forms or getting them notarized, is something I’ve had on my 101 Things list since I put it together last January – write a “If something dire ever happens to me” letter. It’ll list all the bills I pay on a regular basis, and where my accounts and credit cards are located.

You see, in the interest of saving paper, I don’t get bank statements or paper bills sent to my home address; they’re all delivered electronically to my email inbox. Since I’m the only one who knows my password, who else would be able to access this information if I didn’t write it down? Even if the online will-program takes a while to complete and make official, at least my family would know what type of accounts I have, where my savings account is located, etc.

I found out about Suze Orman’s Will & Trust program at Paying Peter Back, a personal finance blog. She wants to become fiscally healthy, and the first thing on her to-do list is to get a will. Her best point? Doing this would cost less than the price of a large pizza.

Now everyone knows that you need a will but it’s one of those things that often gets put on hold indefinitely because it means actually facing your own mortality, and it costs like 10,000 dollars and “I don’t really have anything anyway.” WRONG!!! Yes, you are going to die, no two ways around this one. It does not cost lots of money. Over on suzeorman.com, you can purchase a will and trust kit that literally walks you through all the forms for a whopping $14.45. A large Papa John’s pizza is 15.95. […]

I liked Suze’s forms, because it contains the forms for a will, revocable living trust, and the Advanced Medical Directive (AKA the Terry Schaivo form). All that for less than a pizza.

From Single Edition: How Do I Know if I Need a Will?

[A] will is recommended to ensure that your property is distributed according to your wishes. If you wish to leave items of personal property or money to a friend, charity or relative, a will will help you to do so, and can facilitate substantial tax savings not only to your estate, but to the estate’s beneficiaries. It will also help contain administration and probate expenses.

If you die without a will, your State’s law

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a-WHEN-person 5 pts

I've heard, it's important to write a new will (and replace whatever else was in place, like 401(k), IRA, employee accidental death insurance) after a divorce, or your EX will receive all privileges and assets, as if you were still married (even if you remarry but leave the old will as the last will). I don't know if that's throughout all 50 states, or a pitfall of just a few...

Robin Ogden 5 pts

A will is just one of those items that we need to put on our 'list' and get done - kind of like an annual physical, we have to stop talking about it and just do it. It's so important since the state will take your assets, even if you think you don't have many.

I will fess up right now and say that I too put it off but finally did get a "living trust" set up. I can't tell you all the technical details of it, but what I did was to get a recommendation from someone I trusted who could set all of this up for me. It went very smoothly and was easy as pie. Now I sleep better knowing that I've got one more thing off of my 'to-do' list, my family will have my belongings and the state won't be sweeping in with a smile when I'm pushing up daisies.

Make it a challenge for yourself - get a recommendation and set up and appointment to get this done and in legal order. You'll be glad you did.

Robin Ogden
http://www.firedupcareers.com
http://www.careeradvicetalk.com

Zandria 5 pts

I was thinking about doing the Power of Attorney thing, too. Definitely a good idea. :)

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Mata H 5 pts

Single folks should also consider the following

1. a medical proxy --- this provides a chance for you to name who has the power to make medical decisions for you if you become unable to make them yourself -- who says yes or no to surgery, for example. For married people is it automatically the spouse....there is no clear isolated individual for singles. Also, get a living will whether you are single or not unless you want your life extended to the extreme.

2. Power of Attorney if you become unable to execute your own affairs --- and unless you name someone it could be the state appointed stranger who gets charge of your assets.

~~ Contributing Editor, Mata H. also blogs relentlessly at Time's Fool ( http://timesfool.blogspot.com )

SophieChanel 5 pts

This is an issue that more people need to be aware of...Even if you are single, there are so many other things that need to be put in order. For instance, someone mentioned pets. As a writer, I've done a number of articles on this subject--specifically about what happens to pets when their owners pass away and don't make provisions for them ahead of time. It's not a good scenario--most times shelters. or whoever happens to take them in, are prepared/don't want to continue caring for them and they are eventually put to sleep.

This was a great subject to bring up...thanks for sharing!

Sophie
www.alphawomen.com ( http://www.alphawomen.com )

Liz Rizzo 5 pts

And I wasn't before. Thanks for this great info. on where to start and why!

Liz Rizzo ( http://www.blogher.com/blog/liz-rizzo )

I blog at Everyday Goddess ( http://everydaygoddess.typepad.com/ ).

Sharon Schierling 5 pts

My daughter has a will and she is single. My husband and I do not have a will and we are hopefully, closer to the end than she is. I find that young people tend to be much more practical about these types of basic issues, and especially if they are single. Her point of view is that since she is not married, there is not going to be anyone around to clean stuff up if she doesn't have her affairs in order. She has pets to place, a house to sell and loans to pay off. She has done a really good job of thinking these issues through. Much better than her parents.

nellewrites 6 pts

I'm almost twice your age, yet do not have a will. Your post is going to shame me into finally getting it done.

nelle ( http://www.nelle2nelle.org/ )

moddivorce 5 pts

What a great post, Zandria. If you have pets, you can also put instructions in the will as to who you would like to care for them. That's my biggest concern, along with making sure it's easy for my family to deal with my estate if I predecease them.

If you have substantial assets, like a house and business, you may want to look into getting a Living Trust, which can help avoid probate and potentially, save significant time and money once you're gone!

Helene
The Modern Woman's Divorce Guide
http://themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/blog

Anastiya 5 pts

The answer to this is yes. something could happen to you tomarrow and the state would fight over your assets, your rp and anything else can be thrown into legal limbo, even with benificieries named. I wrote my first will at the age of 19, barely had a dollar to my name and yet uncle sam told me I had to. At 25 I will tell you that I am glad that I did. I not only had a Will but also a living will, and when I was hurt while overseas it allowed my father to take care of things in case I couldn't return. Although you are healthy, it doesn't mean that nothing can happen. So yes write your will and you medical directive, just in case and about every two years go and update it if you need to, but diffenately every five years.