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Of Siblings; Though We Are Many and Poor We’ll Always Be Family

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My mother had eight children—that’s a lot of bambinos. But as life would have it, one day we were only six. But can you imagine our family of six children, plus Mom and Dad, in a small home, and sharing one bathroom? Bad-enough it was hard to hold it, half the time, squeezing your legs and butt-cheeks together, banging on the door, yelling for the occupant to HURRY! But then really imagine what it was like when the entire household came down with that 24-hour flu, with disasters coming from both ends. I do not forget those days.

I remember Mamá had lined up buckets in the hallway, outside the bathroom in the ready, but I’m sure accidents and major clean-ups was something she could count on when you have that many children. And though she managed to hold her little troop together, keeping everything from falling into utter chaos, I’m sure she was tearing out her hair and crying when she had the chance to do so.

We didn’t eat fancy in those days—not when you have that many mouths to feed and only one source of income flowing—but we did fill our bellies: rice, beans, bread and milk were a common staple in our home. So no-one went hungry. Mamá looked for sales when shopping and took advantage when she could find them. We didn’t indulge with Prime Rib or New York Steaks back then (though Mamá snuck a New York steak for Dad once-in-a-rare-while), but we did eat meat: round steak, flank steak, and oxtail, those cuts were much, much cheaper, back-in-the-day, and occasionally treated to London broil.

The children all had very diverse personalities: the shy, the brave, the ambitious, the lazy, the smart ones and the not-so smart (not dumb, just slower than the smart ones!). Some of us, like me, got into a lot more trouble than the rest, hence the “not so smart.” Some graduated from college with mention and honors, while others just didn’t bother to further their education after high school.

My mother had five boys and three girls; and of the three girls I am the eldest. I would also like to mention that my two younger sisters were the ones gifted with very ample bosom, and so what I always felt was deprived. However I was “gifted” with a big butt, a feature my sisters “wished” they’d had, so they keep telling me.

Oh-yeah, how happy that made me all these years; I can’t even begin to tell you!

Though I had no desire to have that many children, I have loved being part of a large family. I now see that I am just one piece of a great puzzle, and this has given me a sense of belonging and great pride!

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Laine Griffin 362 pts

I'm not feeling so bad about my one tiny bathroom now! :)

HomeRearedChef 1536 pts

Laine Griffin LOL! We have been fortunate, at least, since hubby and I have been married, and since the kids all came along, to always have 2 or 3 bathrooms to share. Now that is a relief. :)

HomeRearedChef 1536 pts

Laine Griffin "Someday," and so it is good to hope for. :)

cookingwithkary 127 pts

Just wondering if any of you ladies sleep:) Thanks Virginia for a walk down memory lane, again! Oh the days of one full bathroom to accomodate a family of 6. And never mind trying to enjoy a bubble bath, which of course was impossible in those days!

How goes the unpacking? Hugs, Kary

HomeRearedChef 1536 pts

cookingwithkary The unpacking goes very slow, but I'm sure I will find my motivation and energy soon enough.

Now we have the luxury of 3 bathrooms (toilets), and I really can't see our lives with less. LOL! Imagine that?

I'll be coming to visit you today, Amiga. :)

Big hugs,

edavis 54 pts

More More More! I was an only child, but even I knew growing up that the families on the Waltons and Eight is Enough weren't quite like everybody out there. Living in Western Alaska where many people crowd into very small spaces, I've learned a lot about the challenges (when the stomach flu hits as you said) and also some of the richness. Ohhh - it would be great to read more of your life with your siblings and how that has affected you. You were the oldest? Wow.

HomeRearedChef 1536 pts

edavis Greetings, friend, from San Jose, CA! Yes, I was the eldest girl. And being the oldest child daughter (third oldest in the clan of 8 kids) meant that my parents were tougher on me. I had to set the "good" example for the others. But I was the one that got into the most trouble too. And getting into trouble, quite often really, meant I WAS an example for the others. They quickly learned NOT to follow in my footsteps. LOL!

Since meeting you, I often think about life in Alaska, and immediately BRRRRR! Now that would be a real challenge and change of life. :)

Virtual hugs,

~Virginia

souschef 108 pts

Nice post!

I always knew larger families required more sharing but I don't think I was considering bathroom time in that equation.

Obviously that is a major concern!

HomeRearedChef 1536 pts

souschef Trust me, it was a MAJOR concern. LOL!

Remembering having to share 1 bathroom gives me the shivers today. I guess at my age I can't even consider having to be rushed out. :)

Hugs my friend,

isthisthemiddle 1031 pts

You take me back, yes, the lack of bathrooms in our family of 7 was a big factor. I think it built character! With 5 children we stood out in our neighborhood where most families had 2-3 kids. How our mothers kept us fed is a miracle to me.

In my family, we almost NEVER ate out in a restaurant. We didn't consider that as an option. Mom cooked every night, cooked breakfasts most mornings, and made us lunches to take to school. How she didn't buckle under the pressure I'll never know, but that was just life in the day.

The more I hear about your life, the more I would love to read a memoir, Virginia!

SunbonnetSmart.com 610 pts

isthisthemiddle Boy, Melanie! I'll second that. Virginia! I can't get enough of your stories. I'm tired of the posts...controlling me, teasing me and making me wait. I want to know EVERYTHING all at once. So, I can stay up all night reading the book when I can't sleep and feeling closer to a tribe of wonderful, creative and loving people. Your public DEMANDS it...(and put recipes on every other page.....) and then, when we get the book, we''ll up our demands for a M-o-v-i-e....Start writing! Much Love with paper and pencils on top, Fondly, Robin

HomeRearedChef 1536 pts

SunbonnetSmart.com I think we should have a slumber party, stay up all night remembering and talking until we are spent. I just LOVE to talk about the old days. They really were very different from today.

Hugs Amiga!

HomeRearedChef 1536 pts

isthisthemiddle Melanie, it sure sounds you like and I may have a lot in common. I hear you talk much about the old days too. And it so happens that though we were mostly poor, we were happy and we were safe!

Actually, I'd love to compare childhood memories with you. I bet we'd have a lot of laugh and plenty of tears too. :)

Much amor para ti, Querida Amiga!

KarenLynnn 956 pts

oh Virginia, your story sounds a lot like my hubby's. there were 5 boys and 1 girl and one bathroom in three bedrooms. yikes! are you close to your sisters and brothers? i'm not sure how that is supposed to work... my brother and i just aren't.

HomeRearedChef 1536 pts

KarenLynnn It is so weird, my relationship with my siblings, by as we've gotten older, we've gotten closer again. I think it has tendencies to happen, you sort-of grow apart for a while, and then, by the grace of God, their is happy reunion to be had! :)

BIG hugs, Amiga!

elaineR.N. 513 pts

Thanks for sharing your story. My hubby grew up with four siblings and one bathroom. The kids remain close. Nice to be able to appreciate all that we have.

HomeRearedChef 1536 pts

elaineR.N. I remember my childhood days, and now can really appreciate and understand all that my parents went through. I guess I had to grow up first! :)

Love and BIG hugs, Elaine!

HomeRearedChef 1536 pts

Allison Cook Thank you, Allison, me, too...it brought many memories to mind. :)

bellesouth 9 pts

Crowded places can bring some frustration but usually bring people together. What a great story. :)

HomeRearedChef 1536 pts

bellesouth What you say is so true! There was plenty of frustration, but there was also plenty of love. :)

Thank you for the visit, friend!