Midlife Dating: The Signs of Being Unwanted

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This reminds me of a great line from "It's Complicated" when Meryl Streep s in the car with Steve Martin and she says "men like you don't like women my age" and he replies "its your age I like most about you." There are still men out there who want mature, appealing, confident, accomplished women. The one who don't are actually doing us a favor LOL

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Is that correct? And polyandry is having consensual and informed multiple loving relationships?

Mono or Poly I do not desire to boink married men.

Give me another 12 years or so and I could come around to polyandry due to supply and demand issues.

If all are consensual and above board I'm ok with it - just not as a current practice for me at this time.

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As someone who has been in open relationships and is in favour of them generally, I just wanted to point out that polygamy is not the same thing as polyamory.

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On my bucket list marriage has moved down quite a bit. To be honest, there is the other side of this filter that I currently won't date guys that are over 60.

I tried that twice and I'm not ready. Whole different mindset and my mind is not set on being thought of as a replacement.

Hypocrite and I know it.

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Those rascals come over the fence anyway! You know if I did say I wanted a poly relationship I'd that women over a certain age would still get the age filter flag.

Yep, I'm in time out mode at the moment.

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I always wondered what would happen if you happened to have a birthday in the midst of chatting...and then, poof! You'd be deleted?!

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But not impossible. I got married at 50. totally unexpected. I'd given up on dating. Told my daughter I was moving to Charlotte to be with her. Plunged into my job to achieve a goal there before I gave notice and lo and behold a great guy came along who was also lamenting not being able to find a great woman.
(A Great and Good love is what you should go for.)
Most of my friends haven't had luck with the dating sites no matter what age they are (my friends range from 20-60+)but a few have.
I think it's important tolive life fully, to go out and about, to make sure you look approachable (something my husband told me I often didn't look), find affinity groups and go head on.

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Good and plenty!

I'm 36, and I run into that age filter thing, too -- the guy has cut off anyone who's over 32, or whatever. There are times when I want to message those guys anyway and say, "You're painting with a broad brush and you're missing really great opportunities!"

And then I remember. It's an online dating site. By its nature, it's about broad brushstrokes and few real details.

(Oh, and I also had to add a "no polys" note to my profile just to stop getting contacted by people who are in relationships already...)

I'd say this -- when the frustration gets too high, just step away. I'm in the middle of trying to do that right now, myself. When you're ready and your tolerance for the ridiculousness is back up, it'll still be there. Don't give up, just give it a rest temporarily!

--- Genie, The Inadvertent Gardener ( http://www.theinadvertentgardener.com )

Bossy has been out of this game for a very long time, where game equals the kind that can be fun at times, tedious at others, and laughably difficult to quit, like those miserably long sessions of Monopoly.

You can find Bossy over at her place, i am bossy ( http://www.iambossy.com ). Don't even knock, she's always there.

I had to laugh at this post. I just wrote one about my online dating experience. Luckily this guy wasn't actually "matched" with me or I would have jumped off a cliff. But instead...as you say...you have to laugh!

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I'm about to give up the search. I can't tell you how many hits I get from guy who want to meet up and are married and polygamous dudes who are married and have their wives permission.

 I don't want a hit it and quit, next person please type of relationships.  Sigh, it is just different out here across the creek in the middle passage.

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But I still think there are plenty of single, well-mannered, monied, well-groomed males out there who are interested in meeting ladies who share their interest  -- and I mean ladies who are 50+ (if I didn't think this, I wouldn't blog about it).

Take my word for it; Superman comes along when you don't expect him to fly through your window (or kick in your door, if he's an Aries).

Sharon2x

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