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While normally at different stages, I have always been able to find others faced with similar challenges. As a single mom, I connected with other single moms. When dealing with debt, I attended seminars with others on the road to debt freedom. In a leadership role, I found other leaders to bounce ideas off of. Through these connections there was a consistent exchange of ideas.
Being in the same shoes, so to speak, there was a seemingly endless supply of understanding, encouragement and assistance in these groups. With no thought that the dynamics would ever change, we dug our heels into the good of the group and supported each other. We'd seek answers specific to our needs and then share every useful nugget. As a result of exchanging information, a subtle shift would eventually happen.
The shift was normally as a result of someone actually using the information provided to move forward, outside the group.You'd think everyone would be happy for those ready for a different chapter in their life but some weren't happy at all. The resentment would often times draw attention to just how uncomfortable others were with change. This strained relationships.
Most times friendships can handle people moving to new levels but, other times, you may find that you never had a friendship at all. Shared experiences might equate to comradery but not friendship.
Having similar needs and goals, it might benefit us to work together but it doesn't guarantee friendship. Seeing how others conduct relationships in the face of change is a better judge of character and possible friendship than assuming others are commitment pass their current challenges. If we can't continue to support those that have grown past their initial challenges, we have to question what our "friendship" was actually based on.
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I based this post on the quote "Fate chooses your relations, you choose your friends." by French poet Jacques Delille (1738 - 1813). What friendships have developed in your life as a result of fate?
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