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A Skier's Dream

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The first heavy snow fall always reminds me of my father. It was his belief the first snow was one that would determine the winter for cross-country skiing. He dreamed of the fresh powder which allowed you to glide with ease across the open trails in the winter time.

After a really good storm we would tie our skies to back of the car and drive off to the ski club. At that age I didn’t appreciate the beauty, the silence, or the fresh scent of pine cones along the trail. My poor father would hear the lamenting of a ten-year old complaining of cold feet and ice-cold cheeks.

It was my father’s promises of hot chocolate and warmth in the ski lodge that kept me moving along the trail. The first sip always burning the tongue but the rich warmth of the flavor would engulf my whole body. The times spent by the wood stove we would chat and warm-up munching on the baked cookies my mom had made for our trip. It was these special moments in time that take me back to a special place with my Father.

Only years later with the birth of my two sons you could see the twinkle in my Father’s eyes and I knew he was waiting for the perfect age to take them out on their own set of skies. They were only toddlers and not quite ready! But if he had his way they would have been on skies the moment they began to walk. Sadly, he never got the chance to take them out on the open trail and share the warmth of a hot chocolate in the wooden lodge.

It was the year before my father passed away he logged over 1200 kilometers on his cross-country skies and it was his perfect winter. He hung his certificate with beaming pride looking forward to another great season. Sadly, he never got to relive that moment of glory.

On his last night on earth we stood by his bed side and looking out at the gentle snowfall - it was a skier’s dream. It was at his last moments of breath I envisioned him with his backpack skiing through the starry ski and reaching up to heaven above.

It is now when I am skiing with my own kids I feel the warm glow of the sun glisten through the trees and it feels as if my dad is watching down over us. It’s at those moments my heart warms just a little more and I reflect on the beauty of winter memories.

How do you honor the spirit of loved ones who have passed? Do you feel their spirit with you in your heart?

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michelewhitney 5 pts

I am nearly in tears with this post as memories of my own father are coming up. Thanks for this. 

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

 michelewhitney  The greatest gift we can give our parents is the ability to move forward, hold them close in our hearts, and cherish the memories. It took me a very long time to come to terms with the loss and I refused to speak about it for over a year. 

 

I can only imagine the tears you must feel when you miss your father. But I hold tight in my heart that our parents never leave us they are always about watching their little birds in the nest.

We Band of Mothers 23 pts

Beautiful post.  You do your dad proud.

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

 We Band of Mothers Thank you! I hope so :)

tennismama 86 pts

Your father's passion and your love are so beautifully described. I am sorry that you lost your dad. But I'm sure you have been keeping your father's spirit alive. Thank you for sharing a beautiful story.

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

tennismama Thank you for your kind words - it's the memories that we have that keep us close to the ones we love. I am very fortunate to have so many :)

SarahKnight 21 pts

I love this. It is so beautiful. My dad died a little over a year ago and I miss him so much. You described all of the feelings of loss and love so perfectly. I have also found myself doing the same things that my dad did with me as a child (watching trains, hiking, looking at the stars) with my own children now. And it's such a bittersweet feeling of missing him and wanting him to be there so much and also feeling like he is there in a way and finding peace and comfort in that. Thank you for writing such a beautiful post.

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

SarahKnight Thank you! It is hard to lose the ones we love - I still remember the first year without him and it was extremely hard. I just had to take comfort knowing that he is in my heart and watching over us.

isthisthemiddle 1237 pts

Had to stop back by and say the title, A Skier's Dream, is excellent. Titles can sometimes be the hardest thing to write, but this one is a winner and reflects the post so well. :)

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

isthisthemiddle Thank you, Mel! I'm glad you like it! That night we were all so tired that it does sometimes feel like it was just a dream :)

cdnkaro 30 pts

What a beautiful post and a lovely tribute to your father. May 2012 be a year full of wonderful memory-making moments with your own children!

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

cdnkaro Thank you! I wish you the same! And may the enjoy the smells coming from your kitchen and all of those wonderful meat pies! Happy New Year!

Michelle Youngquist 14 pts

What a beautiful post! Thank you for sharing. I don't have any memories of my own dad because he died when I was very young, but I treasure the stories my Mom tells....and I am passing them on to my children. The best gift my Mom ever gave me is copy of the letters my Dad wrote to her while he was in the Navy. It gave me such an insight into the man he was and I can see where I get my eclectic music taste!

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

Michelle Youngquist Thank you! I am very fortunate to have so many lovely memories. You never know what turns around the corner that can take loved ones from our life so quickly and suddenly. The copy of letters must be such a wonderful treasure for you to have and share with your own family. It is something that you will always cherish! I wish you the best in 2012!

elaineR.N. 727 pts

Your story is so moving and teaches us all to enjoy our families while we have the time. What a nice way to start the year. All the best to you.

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

elaineR.N. Thank you, Elaine! I'm very lucky to have so many great memories of my dad! I hope one day my children will have the same :) I wish you the best in the new year!

isthisthemiddle 1237 pts

A beautiful post, V.V.

I'm glad you shared these memories with us. xoxo

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

isthisthemiddle Thank you, Melanie. I wish you the best in 2012!

Allison Cook 73 pts

I'm so glad I ran across this wonderful story. Every time I turn around I see fathers getting a pretty bad rap and it's refreshing as can be to read about the good ones. My father was a big man, full of life and hilarious idioms. Like your father, he taught me how to partake in his favorite thing - shooting. I've passed this on to my kids, who are amazingly good aims. We go to the shooting range or out trap-shooting and the smell and noise bring my dad back to me...just behind me and a little to the left, waiting to catch me when the kick of the rifle sent my 9 year-old self reeling backwards. Thank you for your beautiful article, and for bringing me some good memories this morning.

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

Allison Cook Thank you, Allison for sharing your own stories about your father. He sounds like he was full of life and joy. I bet he had booming laugh? My husband wants to take the kids shooting but I am so nervous about firearms. It sounds like your father passed down his good aim to your whole family. I wish you the best in 2012!

Lisa Stone 51 pts moderator

Victoria, your father must have been an amazing man to evoke this post. You're evoking Robert Frost for me: "Whose woods these are, I think I know..." Thank you so much for sharing. Skiing always will remind me of my father too.

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

Lisa Stone Thank you, Lisa for your beautiful compliment. Robert Frost is actually one of Dad's favorite poets and would read to us as kids. Skiing is such a wonderful family sport and it holds so many precious memories.

HomeRearedChef 2229 pts

I just wanted to drop by again and say "congratulations" on another great post. It featured. Yippeee!! :)

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

HomeRearedChef Thank you, Virginia! I wish you the best in 2012! I hope your new home brings you so much warmth and comfort!

HomeRearedChef 2229 pts

I wish the same for you, too, Victoria! victorias_view

edavis 143 pts

Oh dang - you just got me all choked up and tears going down my face. That was a beautiful post and a wonderful image of your dad. May you have great snow this season.

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

edavis Thank you! It has been a very odd winter season for snow. But I think when we head to the mountains for a trip we will find the perfect powder :)

Chris--MomathonBlog.com 13 pts

Victoria, This lovely story is such a sweet tribute to your father, Your words make me want to write down more of my own memories. Your father must have been a wonderful man. Thanks for sharing this. Memories like this need to be shared. Hugs, Chris

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

Chris--MomathonBlog.com Thank you Chris! He was a really great man and I was very blessed to have so much quality time with him. He is greatly missed and it is over the holidays I feel like the kids are missing so much :)

SHembree 22 pts

This is such a heart-warming tribute to your father. I could see it so clearly in my head as I read it. What a wonderful thing to be able to have these memories of your father and to be able to make new memories with your kids as well. It's a touching illustration of how life goes on, but as it does, it builds on what has come before. You should save a copy of this for your kids' scrapbooks.

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

SHembree Thank you, my father loved to cart his grand kids with him where ever he went and he loved his short time with them. I try to keep his spirit alive by talking about him and sharing stories on the ski lift about his life. It really is those times which are special :)

dlmccormick@triad.rr.com 7 pts

Beautiful post. And so wonderful you have these precious memories of your childhood and father.

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

dlmccormick@triad.rr.com Thank you. I am very blessed to have such wonderful memories especially to look back and reflect on over the holidays.

KarenLynnn 1245 pts

what a beautiful story about your dad. aww, such a sweet memory. you had me in tears when he was skiing of to the stars. *hugs*

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

KarenLynnn. Thank you, he loved to be on a pair of skies. It was the one thing he looked forward to in the wintertime. It`s the one thing I think of when I see that beautiful quiet snowfall.

HomeRearedChef 2229 pts

OH, yes, Victoria, I think of my father often. Especially during the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays. They were his favorite.

I've never skied, but my husband has. And he tells me that it is a really fun sport. I don't understand why I've never gone. Maybe it's not to late to plan. :)

Loved your post!

Big hugs to you, my friend.

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

HomeRearedChef Thank you, Virginia! Christmas was one of my Father's favorite holidays and he loved to decorate the front of the house full of lights. It is a nice time to reflect on the ones we love :)

It is a really fun sport! I think you should definitely try it! It's never to late to plan ;)

Amanda_Magee 27 pts

This was beautiful, driven sweetly home as I, just tonight, picked up three sets of skis for my daughters that they'll use in February when my stepdad comes to teach them to ski.

I honor my grandfather by keeping warm his love of language and health, ironically he always loved bacon so I allow myself to deeply enjoy bacon from time to time ;)

victorias_view 2555 pts moderator

Amanda_Magee Thank you :) I hope your daughters enjoy their time on their skis and the time they spend with their step dad. It is the little things that create so many beautiful memories.

I can see a love of language reflected in your blog posts and I hope you savor some bacon on Christmas morning. I wish you the best over the holiday season!

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Stephanie Guittard Scigliano
Stephanie Guittard Scigliano

wow, i literally just finished blogging about my grandmom, who died 10 days ago, and what i could say at her memorial. I just love this- so wonderfully written.

Elaine Springer Griffin
Elaine Springer Griffin

I do love this post.

Chris Olson
Chris Olson

Love this post. Sweet story.

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What a beautiful tribute...I write letters to my mom in a special journal...have since she passed...

Karie Fugett
Karie Fugett

I still celebrate my husbands birthday. I talk to him daily. I'm reminded of him daily. I have a heart tattooed on my ring finger. I do what I can. He is so, so missed. This is a beautiful article.