Skinny or Fat, Size-ism is Wrong!

I started out as an advocate for "Curvalicious" women and fat girls, but I quickly came to realize that size-ism works both ways.  You see, I have no problem with the word fat, it is just a word, just a size, as is skinny.  But, when used in a negative way both words can hurt a person to their core.

Although I don't know her personally, I've seen pictures of the beautiful professional model below quite often on Facebook.   I asked a mutual photographer friend to ask her to do the photo below as a statement for the Shout Your Beauty Project (Check out the project's Facebook Page) and was thrilled that she agreed.  I have been appalled by some of the comments I've seen posted on her pics by other women.  They range from "she's too skinny" to "damn, she needs a sandwich".  When the negative commenters are called out they usually say something along the lines of "We are just concerned about her health."  Really?  Do you know her?  Are you her doctor?

Assuming a "skinny" girl is unhealthy or anorexic is just as disrespectful and size-ist as assuming a girl with meat on her bones is unhealthy or sits on her ass eating donuts all day.  I purposefully refrained from asking Liz about her health, because it is none of my business and it is none of yours.   I will tell you this about me.  If you assume I am unhealthy because I'm fat, I have ZERO health-related illnesses.  That is unless you include the hypothyrodism that actually contributes (a little) to my weight. 

It appalls me to see women who have been the object of ridicule turning on other women in the exact same way.  They justify it by saying "everyone thinks everyone should be skinny".  I'm not sure what that means.  I get it that society holds "thin" women up as the ideal body size and the definition of beauty.  But guess what? Beauty doesn't have an ideal size.  Beauty doesn't have a size at all.  And that doesn't mean "curvy" is more beautiful than "skinny", it REALLY MEANS we are ALL beautiful in our own way.

To illustrate my point I chose to put myself up next to Liz (as a part of the Shout Your Beauty Project).  The two of us together show two extremes as far as body size.  I do not feel ashamed of my body next to hers because I know that we are each equally beautiful in our own way. 

As I said before, I don't know Liz, so I can't say if we have anything in common, but I can say one thing for sure.  Being able to stand up in front of others and have pictures taken of you and put yourself out there and open to ridicule...well that takes bravery and beauty at any size. 

The next time you hear yourself thinking the words "skinny bitch" stop and think how it feels for someone to say "fat bitch" to you.  It is getting more and more difficult to be a woman in today's world, no matter what size you are.  We shouldn't be turning on each other out of jealousy, fear, or just plain stupidity. 

Is stupidity a little harsh?  Maybe.  But when there is so much going on in the world, when women have so many struggles I can only see us attacking each other over something as petty as dress size as stupid!

DJ Westerfield blogs at The CurvyWriter Blog  and is the founder of The Shout Your Beauty Project