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Is Sleep a Feminist Issue?

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After recapping (to the best of my ability) feminism in the aughts, I am now focused on what I'd like to see happen in the new decade we are in. According to Arianna Huffington (of The Huffington Post) and Cindi Levie (editor of Glamour magazine, one of the few women's rags that I sort of like), the biggest issue facing women these days is not the wage gap between men and women, the lack of affordable child care, the disparity of domestic labor division, or the housing crisis. It's not even the ever increasing pressure that women face to remain young and thin and at all costs. Nope. It's a lack of sleep.

Quite frankly, they make a compelling case. People need approximately 7.5 hours of sleep every night for the body to function healthily. Huffington and Levie point out that the "sleepiest" Americans are women, particularly working women. On average, working ladies get an hour and a half less sleep per night than recommended daily allowance. To encourage women to get more sleep, they are hosting a sleep challenge. Every night in January, Levie and Huffington will get the amount of sleep they require to perform at their best. They wrote:

Ladies, the choice is ours. Do we want to be empowered women taking charge of our lives -- or do we want to be cult members, dragging ourselves around like zombies and going along with everyone else's crummy ideas?

Bwa ha ha ha! Now that cracks me up. Of course, the choice actually isn't usually ours. If we don't have partners willing to take on their share of the domestic tasks or workplaces that are flexible to ensure that people can do what they need to at home and at work, I'm not sure how women are making a choice to not sleep: the choice is made for us. (Or, if women didn't have jobs in the first place, they'd rest more. See? It's all feminism's fault. Crap, just writing this is making me tired, but I can't sleep until I finish it.)

In my case, the nights in which I don't get enough sleep are the ones in which I am vexed by insomnia. Often my inability to slumber peacefully is triggered by something I read or some political news, like the "right" of a pharmacist to refuse to fill birth control prescriptions because he is morally opposed to it or how sex trafficked women are punished when police bust up prostitution rings or how men in Afghanistan threw acid in the faces of school girls to prevent them from continuing their educations. These things throw Maurice (the hamster who runs on the wheel that powers my brain) into a tizzy, he decides that he needs to take a five mile run, and do you know how long it can take a hamster to run five miles, even at top speed? A long fucking time. So for hours, my brain is going, going, going, and there is nothing that my tired eyeballs can do to shut the thoughts up.

Anyway, Kate Harding at Salon's Broadsheet is similarly skeptical. She compares sleep deprivation to the extreme diets that a lot of women undergo, noting that both lack of sufficient sleep and food are techniques used in torture. (She also cracks me up, up intentionally.)

Back to my original gas bagging about feminist issues, Lisa Schmeiser at Filthy Commerce has some facts to share (facts that will no doubt cause me to lose sleep, but whatevs...) about why women sleep less than they need to:

We can start with the second shift: U.S. women still do nearly twice as much housework as men do and that disparity doesn't go away even when the woman's a high earner. The default for domestic affairs still rests with the distaff partner.

Oh snap! But wait! There's more! Laura Vanderkam calls bunk on the study that found that women get only six hours of sleep:

There are two problems with this stat. One is that the [National Sleep Foundation] commonly partners with drug companies such as sanofi-aventis, maker of Ambien, one of the country’s most popular sleep drugs. They definitely have an interest in more people thinking they are sleep deprived than actually are. But the other problem is that the NSF’s annual poll is a “quick response” survey. The

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Suzanne 5 pts

I don't think that this post discriminates between women with jobs outside the house and those who don't have them.  The whole point is that women do all kinds of work and that women don't get enough sleep.  If that wasn't clear in the post, consider this comment a necessary edit to fix that flaw. 

No one who knows anything thinks that mothers who take care of kids aren't working.

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants ( http://cussandotherrants.com ) and is the author of Off the Beaten (Subway) Track ( http://offthebeatensubwaytrack.com ).

stephaniedelger 5 pts

I'd just like to point out that sleep deprivation is NOT just a working woman's issue.  As if those of us who stay home with our children aren't working?  As if it's a breeze to be a stay at home mom?  As if we don't stay up late at night, or wake up in the middle of the night with a thousand thoughts racing through our heads, making plans, keeping track of schedules, worrying about our children, and wondering how to keep all the balls in the air?

Forgive me if I'm reading too much into this, but I resent the implication that women who choose to be HOMEMAKERS are somehow coasting through life stress free. 

Now, I am NOT a feminist and I will admit to a little eye roll about everything being made into an issue all the time, but I don't think it's out of line at all to stand up for the stay at home mom.  I'm tired too.  And I work just as hard as a woman with an office job.  The only difference is I don't get paid.

stephaniedelger 5 pts

I'd just like to point out that sleep deprivation is NOT just a working woman's issue.  As if those of us who stay home with our children aren't working?  As if it's a breeze to be a stay at home mom?  As if we don't stay up late at night, or wake up in the middle of the night with a thousand thoughts racing through our heads, making plans, keeping track of schedules, worrying about our children, and wondering how to keep all the balls in the air?

Forgive me if I'm reading too much into this, but I resent the implication that women who choose to be HOMEMAKERS are somehow coasting through life stress free. 

Now, I am NOT a feminist and I will admit to a little eye roll about everything being made into an issue all the time, but I don't think it's out of line at all to stand up for the stay at home mom.  I'm tired too.  And I work just as hard as a woman with an office job.  The only difference is I don't get paid.

redsonika 5 pts

I'm a nanny and I have one great advantage over parents when it comes to sanity maintenance: I can sleep all night uninterrupted. My charges' mom and I joke about that a lot - she works the same hours I do at her job, but she doesn't then have the "luxury" of sleeping all night. Of course, working with kids means I often fall asleep the second I get home - but I recognize that it's only going to get *worse* when the children are my own and I honestly wonder - how does any woman do this and not completely lose her mind? 

I guess it's an "open secret" that mothers of small children never get enough sleep, but I wonder if it's really totally necessary in the grand scheme of things for it to be this way. There might not be any way around it, especially if women want to have careers outside of the home, but I think it's important to recognize that women (especially mothers) are starting at a disadvantage in terms of restfulness.

Suzanne 5 pts

Hey Margaret,

I think that lack of sleep is a real problem, no doubt.  But I also think it is a symptom of other problems, and unless those get addressed, we can't just tell women to get more sleep so they'll be better leaders.  So I agree with you, but also disagree.

Suzanne

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants ( http://cussandotherrants.com ) and is the author of Off the Beaten (Subway) Track ( http://offthebeatensubwaytrack.com ).

Beverly Flaxington 5 pts

Add in the part where we wake up out of a wonderful slumber because we remember something we forgot -- a work-related item, or a child-related item or both!! Once that happens to me, I lie awake wondering what else I've forgotten that I haven't awakened to think about. It's definitely the stress of dropping some ball which I think is the working mom's life. And, then while I am lying awake willing myself not to look at the clock and realize it will be another night of too little sleep, my husband's deep snoring intrudes. How do these men just sleep through everything while we lay awake and worry?

Beverly Flaxington

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Willful Woman 5 pts

Whatever the exact stats are on the amount of sleep women get or don't get, we just plain don't take good enough care of ourselves. We know that. We put ourselves last. And getting enough sleep is the result of many choices, right? It doesn't just happen. Most of those choices would involve putting ourselves first. Reading one story to our kids instead of two. Accepting less than from perfection from ourselves. Leaving the dishes dirty in the sink. Negotiating with our partner for time to ourselves. Learning how to clear our minds of worry. All of these are things we can do for ourselves. Medication certainly isn't always the answer. Sometimes meditation helps. Ambien helped me. A low dose. One pill, not two. : ) Especially when I'm pre-menstrual.

Beyond that, there are political and economic circumstances that require our long-term attention and work that put unfair pressure on women that could certainly infringe on sleep. To work longer hours for less money, to raise kids on their own (not by their choice) with inadequate resources, to be overly concerned with their appearance, to not have access to adequate birth control or abortion or healthcare. It's enough to keep any woman up nights! 

I wish we moms didn't so often divide ourselves between moms who work outside the home and so-called SAHMs. (That's such an inaccurate term. I am one and I'm rarely at home! But I haven't thought of a new one to suggest.) I know and respect the struggles of women who work paying jobs. But they're not the only ones who lie awake at night feeling they've dropped the one of the many balls we're all always trying to keep in the air. Moms who are at home with kids full-time over-extend themselves in insane ways as well. At all ends of the economic spectrum...for all kinds of exhausting reasons. We have more in common than not.

Who gets less sleep than any mom with a new baby?

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Just_Margaret 5 pts

It's certainly a feminist issue, and I think you do an excellent job of illustrating just that.

And getting a full night's rest really is a luxury for some people, as you pointed out.  I'm a former H.R. officer and I found that the majority of 'Employee Relations' issues I dealt with regarding my 2nd- & 3rd-shift workers sprung from their working off-kilter hours and not being able to get appropriate rest.  This was a financial services company, not a manufacturing entity (where I imagine, there'd be other issues, especially accidents and injuries).

Lately, I've been reading a LOT about sleep--everyone is talking it right now, but sadly, I'm expecting that the discussion will die down and people will go back to being sleep deprived.  If my husband and I weren't so great about making sure that we both have time to do what we need to do as individuals (including getting a good night's rest)  I wouldn't be able to say that I am able, in fact, to honor my body's sleep requirements.

~Margaret

Just Margaret ( http://maurhoffbarney.blogspot.com )

Suzanne 5 pts

I agree with both of you that lack of sleep is caused by the stress of all the responsibilities women shoulder.  My mom was a SAHM while I was young (although she worked at crappy jobs on the weekends) and we never had homemade bread.  :)  Just thinking about baking bread actually stresses me out.

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants ( http://cussandotherrants.com ) and is the author of Off the Beaten (Subway) Track ( http://offthebeatensubwaytrack.com ).

divorcedbefore30 5 pts

Many of us want to be able to "do it all," and I know that I still compare myself to my mom, who was a SAHM. I grew up without ever eating bread that wasn't homemade, for example. Can I pull this off now? Hell, no! I feel like I've produced "homemade" if I have time to swing by Breadsmith. Maybe I'm missing out on a secret that superwomen know, but it's impossible for me to work outside the house, do everything I want for my family, take care of myself (exercise, etc.), AND get enough sleep.

Emma just launched her "blogoir" at www.divorcedbefore30.com ( http://www.divorcedbefore30.com/ )

Virginia DeBolt 5 pts

From my perspective, it's stress, not sleep. Women aren't supported in the workplace, in salaries, in day care, in health care. It's a helluva lot of stress.

Virginia DeBolt
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