Slow Pussy Sucking

Originally posted on a blog I curate www.OrgasmDaily.com, written by Yia Vang

I love having my pussy sucked. That wasn’t always the case. It used to be that pussy sucking was awkward, and high-pressured; something I did to prepare for penetration like it’s step 4 of having sex. That experience where I felt like I had to moan loud to please my partner even if he’s using too much pressure or he’s fingering me before I’m really turned on. And then there’s that moment where there’s no more to give but I can’t tell him to stop because he really is trying really hard, so I have to clench my hips and move them to try and get him on that spot so that I can go over and show him what a good lover he is. And of course the louder I moan, the harder and faster he went, and the more I have to clench in pain. Yea, pussy sucking was hard work!

Slow sex was a foreign concept to me. I always thought it was supposed to be hard and fast and get to the climax. If there was no climax, then there must be something wrong with me. Until a few years ago when I met a lover who knew how to slow down and tune into my body. It completed changed the way I viewed pussy sucking and it changed my relationship to my body. He took his time, he slowed down, he teased, and he built the wanting. If there was no climax it didn’t matter because my body felt nourished and deeply saturated, and when I did climax it was in waves that rocked my whole body in pleasure for a long time.

When Nicole Daedone’s book Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm came out with a full chapter on slow sex and pussy sucking, I just about fell to my knees and prasied god almighty that a woman wrote about the kind of sex that my body was craving for. I didn’t have the language to describe it and here she’s captured it and put it out for the world to read. I’ve included an abbreviated expert from the book on pussy sucking.

Women naturally desire sex that is connected, earthy, sensual, and artistic. They want permission to be turned on. The rules are simple:

1. GO SLOW: slower than you could ever imagine. Slow so you can feel her, smell her, taste her every cell.

2. BE UNPREDICTABLE: her orgasm responds to the elements of surprise. Just let yourself feel, don’t think too much. Follow your own sensation and where it wants to take you. Desire co-arises, so whatever feels best to you will be the most sensational for her too.

3. LEARN TO HOLD: Once you’ve gotten her to a place of intense sensation, don’t move.
Hold there as long as possible so she can absorb all the pleasure that’s available.

MAKE THESE GUIDELINES YOUR ONLY TECHNIQUE
Let your desire be your compass. Connect to your senses and let them guide you. You’ve honed your skills through OM; there’s nothing to do except trust. The orgasm is there.

Exercise. SLOW ORAL FOR HER

Part ONE: Preparation

Consider OMing first. After being stroked a woman’s body will be fat with orgasm.
If you choose to begin this way SAFEPORT her first. Tell her you intend to stroke her and you will not give her grounding strokes at the end like you usually do. Instead leave her high and full and ready. Draw her out physically and with your words.

Part TWO: Coaxing Her Orgasm into Bloom

Help your woman take her clothes off. Go slowly. Linger. Show care with every button, every hook, every zipper.
Lay her down on the bed and begin with her feet.
Press your thumbs into her arches until you feel her let go and relax.
Ask her to communicate sensations to you. Ask her to tell you what it feels like in her body. Keep drawing out her sensation until you feel that she is truly ready to begin.
Treat her whole body as a sex organ and put as much attention on her neck, her chest, her nipples, her stomach. Don’t just go straight for her pussy. Spend some time teasing and coaxing her body to open and surrender to your touch and confidence.
Firmly and gently place a hand on each knee and press her legs open.
Feel the heat increase between you. If she moves, tell her to be still.

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