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Small Confined Spaces: Air Travel and Stress

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CHICAGO - OCTOBER 26:  A JetBlue Airways jet sits on the tarmac at O'Hare Airport October 26, 2006 in Chicago, Illinois. JetBlue today announced the start of service to the city. The airline will service New York's JFK Airport and Long Beach Airport from Chicago.  (Photo by Scott Olson/Getty Images)

Steve Slater, a JetBlue employee, quit by shouting out a few expletives over the Intercom system, grabbing some beers, and exiting out the plane's emergency door after a passenger's bag clocked him in the head. But it's not really take-this-job-and-shove-it insomuch as plane travel has become so stressful that it can make the most even-tempered people snap.

Um ... okay, perhaps this is more my bias as an Ativan-popping flyer. I wasn't always this terrible with airplanes. I flew several times a year back and forth to college and until recently, traveled overseas at least once a year. I wasn't thrilled on those ten hour flights across the Atlantic, but I never needed more than a few drops of Rescue Remedy to get me through the turbulence.

There was no tipping point, no terrible flight I can point at and say is the reason for all of my fears. But over time, I became terrified of the idea that a plane has no stop button. If you hate the way the flight is going, there is no way to pull over to the side of the road and catch your breath. You're stuck until the flight is over. This is the same fear that keeps me from getting on a cruise (have never been on one and I don't think I ever will) and makes me dizzy whenever we need to cross the Bay Bridge (4.3 miles is a long time to be stuck over water).

Therefore, I get it when Mary Roach is on the Daily Show and explains the psychological issues of a trip to Mars.

What happens when you're in a confined space with other people for a long period of time. It's very frustrating. Space is a very ungiving and frustrating environment. You tend to get angry.

Yes, Mars is a little different than Pittsburgh to New York, but perhaps we can chalk it up to an accumulation of little bits of stress over a long career of flight.

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It explains why we feel so good when we hear Sons of Maxwell croon "United Breaks Guitars."

Because we've all experienced that out-of-our-control sensation that accompanies air travel, where your possessions as well as your safety is completely out of your hands. It explains why Kevin Smith snapped over Twitter when Southwest asked him to leave a standby flight because he did not fit comfortably in one seat. Air travel

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Jane Byers Goodwin 5 pts

No no no, I said "bring it on" only because I figured someone would tell me to suck it up and let myself be mashed rather than injure someone's self esteem. I am not a fighter. If I were, I would have said something while still on the plane.

"Don't be content with being average. Average is as close to the bottom as it is to the top."

loribeth 5 pts

I haven't had too many problems with flying. That said, I only fly two or three times a year, & generally to see my parents (i.e., the flight is usually no longer than 2-2.5 hours). Usually, it's pretty uneventful.

That said, I've learned a few things over the years. I do not like takeoffs. I generally grab dh's hand, close my eyes & pray over & over again, "Please get me home safely please get me home safely please get me home safely..."

I do not like planes that are too small or too large. Too small & I feel too vulnerable; too large & I have to try not to think about what's holding this humungous thing up in the air.

Bad weather & turbulence can also lead to white knuckles.

I was also pretty nervous flying home for Christmas 2001 after 9/11. I managed to convince myself that only someone who absolutely had to (who wasn't born on the Canadian prairies) would get on a plane to Winnipeg in the middle of December, lol.

justlinda 9 pts

Airplanes to bridges to rivers -- I used to travel to the UK quite a bit and we would stay on a hotel across the Thames river from where our offices were. My old boss would need to take anti-motion medicine in order to take the ferry across the river. haha Sometimes, he just wasn't up for it at all and he'd take a taxi instead (5 minute ferry versus 30 minute taxi).

We teased him, of course, but not without humor and even understanding.

We all have our 'things' in life. And those mentioned here aren't anywhere near the top of the list of weird.

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Melissa Ford 5 pts

Me too! Bay Bridge has only been the last few years. Hmmm...you've given me something to think about.

Melissa writes Stirrup Queens ( http://stirrup-queens.com ) and Lost and Found ( http://lostandfoundandconnectionsabound.blogspot.c... ). Her book is Navigating the Land of If ( http://thelandofif.blogspot.com/ ).

Melissa Ford 5 pts

Fantastic post, Linda. I love the points you made.

Melissa writes Stirrup Queens ( http://stirrup-queens.com ) and Lost and Found ( http://lostandfoundandconnectionsabound.blogspot.c... ). Her book is Navigating the Land of If ( http://thelandofif.blogspot.com/ ).

Melissa Ford 5 pts

There is definitely inconsideration that happens, but I would differentiate between something that is within a person's control -- too much perfume -- and something that is outside of a person's control -- crying baby, weight, etc. I think the problem is that too many people leave their house and believe that they should receive the same amenities they get when they're alone. People who are worried about having other people interact with them on public transport should take private transport. Other than that, I think we all need to understand that during the time period that we're in the air (or on the bus, or on the train), we're entitled to a safe ride and a comfort to the best of the transportation's abilities.

Since I usually ask for a middle seat, I've certainly experienced this before, but frankly, it upsets me less than people being openly hostile to another person. I've seen that a lot more than I've seen people actually being inconsiderate.

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Melissa Ford 5 pts

By saying, "bring it on," it doesn't sound like you want an honest discussion or even the situation fixed. It sounds as if you just want to fight. And frankly, I won't engaged in bashing other human beings.

Melissa writes Stirrup Queens ( http://stirrup-queens.com ) and Lost and Found ( http://lostandfoundandconnectionsabound.blogspot.c... ). Her book is Navigating the Land of If ( http://thelandofif.blogspot.com/ ).

Melissa Ford 5 pts

I think that when people go into situations with their verbal fists raised, they usually find the fight. If you go in expecting to be given a hard time, you'll usually find one.

Melissa writes Stirrup Queens ( http://stirrup-queens.com ) and Lost and Found ( http://lostandfoundandconnectionsabound.blogspot.c... ). Her book is Navigating the Land of If ( http://thelandofif.blogspot.com/ ).

Dana Damico 5 pts

Oh my God! I too start to sweat and go woozy when we cross the Bay Bridge. It's a relatively recent phenomenon that started sometime in the past several years.
I hate planes too! Seriously tremble. Again, that wasn't always the case.
Here's my latest theory: my fears have grown since having children, so maybe I worry about my death and leaving them orphaned.
I don't know the reason; I just know it sucks.

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justlinda 9 pts

As for the tangental topic of the overweight or obese on an airplane, I did blog about that a few months back when the Kevin Smith SWA thing went down (in case anyone wants to read: http://justlinda.net/blog/?p=533 )

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vomviersen 5 pts

I personally think the decline started quite a long time ago, back in the days of deeply discounted flights. Then, it was everyone and their brother, who had never flown before and didn't know or care about observing travel etiquette and niceties, bringing that unfortunate attitude to the air. It's definitely gotten worse with the economy, and with airlines reducing or charging for amenities, cutting flights, and jamming more people in smaller seats than in the past. Travelers seem less civil, too. The ones who feel that the size and number limit on carry-on items is only for other people, not their own entitled asses, are the ones who irk me the most. I just want to grab their oversized item and whack them with it. Yeah, sounds like I'm more stressed than in the past, too!

I also have to agree with Jane's "politically incorrect" post. I don't fly often as compared to business travelers, but I do go to visit my parents in Honolulu at least once or twice a year. If we get a non-stop flight, that is a long time to be crushed into less than a full seat. Or for that matter, to be held captive by any other type of inconsideration of other passengers' personal space (excessive noise, overuse of fragrance, lack of personal hygiene, etc.)

I wouldn't say I fear flying, but it's become less of an adventure and more of a chore over the years. And that is kind of sad.

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Jane Byers Goodwin 5 pts

I LOVE to fly, and I have only one actual fear when it comes to airplanes. Unfortunately, this fear came true on my flight back from NY Sunday night. http://www.janegoodwin.net/2010/08/08/political-in... ( http://www.janegoodwin.net/2010/08/08/political-in... )

There will be people who will think my attitude is politically incorrect, rude, and insensitive. I believe there was definitely rudeness and insensitivity here, but I don't think it was mine - the passenger by the window - or the passenger on the aisle.

Bring it on.

"Don't be content with being average. Average is as close to the bottom as it is to the top."

justlinda 9 pts

I travel for business and I fly a lot.

Air travel is a pain, but I don't have any fear of it.

My approach is to try to observe and understand the rules as best I can and to ALWAYS treat the personnel with humor and respect - to follow their direction, etc.

There is NOTHING to be won by going toe-to-toe with a gate agent or a flight attendant. If you have a beef, take it up later through a formal complaint process.

I observe a lot when I travel. It amazes me how many customers treat these employees like dogs. They blatantly disregard instructions, they are rude, think they know more or know better. I'm surprised MORE airline employees don't lose it.

On the other hand, I occasionally see an airline employee on a power-trip too. Mostly I just roll my eyes at this but it can be frustrating to be on the receiving end of a flight-attendants power trip.

Air travel is like Greyhound of the Sky now - it's stressful for everyone. Nobody is happy.

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