Making Parenting Decisions Based on Brain Science

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Editor's Note: I read a recent post by Dawn at The Dalai Mama with interest. As the lone female in a house full of males, I think it's important for me to learn the differences in the way male and female brains work. Dawn shares what she learned at a recent talk about early childhood and parenting. -Jenna

A Different 99%:

I learned that boys (men) tune out what they deem as white noise when they are focused on something else. So, often when I am asking Noah what he wants for breakfast or to put on his shoes, and he is doing something else, he isn’t purposefully ignoring me. His brain is hardwired to be able to tune out distractions. On the other hand, when Zoë has to talk about something 4,567 times it isn’t to be annoying, but because she is trying to process it and understand it. It is fascinating. I can’t wait to read more about these differences.

The choice seems simple, but it isn’t. Clearly it isn’t, as I have a long way to go to even begin to be proficient at this.

As I think about my parenting decisions, most of them are made based on what I think should happen, etc. I realize that I haven’t been listening to my children as much as I thought I was and certainly not in any consistent manner.

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Read more from A Different 99% at The Dalai Mama: The 14th reincarnation of the imperfect woman