I Can't Talk to My 5-Year-Old About Private Parts

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One thing that seems to trip parents up in parenting is the whole "where do babies come from" discussion. And by "trip parents up," I don't mean that they're doing it wrong. I mean that parents question themselves and feel like they're doing it wrong. Kate at And Then Kate is struggling with these issues and her five-year-old daughter, Aura. How do you approach these conversations?

Kate laments about time:

Amazing YouI just…can’t do it. It’s not that I won’t do it, or that I’m not prepared to do it. It’s just that, for us, it hasn’t gotten to that point yet. I do sense “that point” rapidly approaching, what with a little brother on his way with his little penis and all.

It’s just that there are so many years stretching ahead of five-year-old Aura, so much time when so much of what she’ll do and hear and think about will be tinged with the concept of body parts and what they can do and what people can do with them. Hazy though the memories are, I remember elementary school. I remember “liking” a boy as early as third grade (oh, Tommy D.; how I kicked him often and repeatedly on the playground to show my love, which is how we western Mass girls used to do it, Springfield UNIIIITE).

So. It’s coming, and there’s no way around It.

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