Patience in Parenting: What We Want Our Kids to See

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Editor's Note: It's no secret of parenting that children test our patience. Sometimes unintentionally and sometimes with full on malice, they test and test and test again. Our response in these moments of exhaustion and frustration is important as The First Hundred points out. She's working on how she deals with patience in those hard moments. Are you? -Jenna

I'll Give You Til the Count of Three: Patience and Motherhood:

However, of this I’m sure, I will fail at being as patient as I want and even as patient as some of you may be with your kids. I also know that I have a fire in my belly to do the best I can to slug through it all and not have “but it’s been tiring today”, “they were the difficult child”, “she was really pushing my buttons” etc. as my excuses for me to act poorly. Our children are such special VULNERABLE, IMPRESSIONABLE, SENSITIVE little souls we have been entrusted with and I want to do so right by them, our God, and the privilege to be their mother. I don’t say this as some lightweight, “bring it all together closer moment” to passionately end a post because that’s not reality. Some days I feel like if I have to correct my kids one more time, I will keel over dead. Discipline done correctly/consistently can be so draining that some days you just let them say “no” and you don’t have it in you to correct them. “Not today,” you say. “I can’t do this or deal with anymore today,” you say in your head. It is so hard sometimes and our actions show that both in how we discipline and how we respond to our kids. I will fail but I want the overall picture of how I treat my children in my moments of frustrations to reflect a patient, assertive, yet gentle spirit. I don’t want them to fear me. I want them to respect me and trust me both when I am happy and when I am frustrated.

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