My Ideas of Success Differed from my Husband's... but It Didn't Matter
[Editor's Note: What my life was like before I became an everyday mom, what I thought my life would be like after I was parenting children and what my life is like today are three vastly different things. It's a sticking point for some moms, facing the "what I thought" and "what it is." For some moms, however, the added issue of how their partner views the subject can be a thorn in the side of the relationship. Megs at And Here's to You, Mrs. Robinson shares her befores, her husband's thoughts, the issues they had -- and what their reality is like today. What was your journey to today like? -Jenna]
before i met Adam, i was pretty gung-ho about making a name for myself in the world. i was going to get my degree, have an awesome career, and after i’ve established myself, i would have a cute little family while still being super awesome.
i was going to do it.
this was my big dream.
then i started dating Adam. i told him all about how i was going to work and be successful even after children. at the time i was a communications major with an emphasis in journalism. i had plans to become a big-time writer for a high-end fashion magazine.
& be a mom on the side.
the problem was, Adam didn’t like my idea of what success means. he didn’t like the idea of being a mother as an afterthought. he wanted me to stay home. i thought he was being chauvinistic.
it honestly became a make it or break it situation in our relationship.
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