Get Your Kids to Respond the First Time They're Asked
Editor's Note: How many times to you repeat yourself everyday? "Tommy, put your shoes away. Tommy, please put your shoes away." How many times does it take you having to repeat yourself to get to a yell? "TOMMY, I SAID PUT YOUR SHOES AWAY!" I am intrigued and encouraged by the way Katie at Intentionally Katie is approaching this problem in hopes of getting her kids to do what they're asked -- the first time they're asked. Wouldn't that be just wonderful? -Jenna
In a burned-out, frustrated state a couple weeks ago, I sat down with Mike to devise a plan to get the kids on track with first time obedience. Not a foreign concept in our house, but with a naturally stubborn 3 year old and a skilled negotiator of an 8 year old, all requests seem to be met with resistance.
Mike and I talked about our kids' currency (lately, it is screen time: iPad games, iPhone apps, tv shows, etc) which we planned to tie to first time obedience. This is what we came up with...
On a dry-erase board on our fridge, we listed the kids' names at the top. Each morning, they begin the day with six stars. 1 star = 5 minutes of screen time.
Mike came up with the plan that they can earn a star each time they respond to a request with "Yes Mom" or "Yes Dad" and do it within 5 seconds. If they don't, they lose a star. If they argue or negotiate, they lose a star.