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Surrogate Motherhood: Would You Buy A Baby in India?

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Several years ago, I did a series on surrogate motherhood. What I remember most about that story were two things: the agony of the infertile California couple who wanted a child, and the young Christian mother who believed that God meant her to help them. She didn’t need the money, though it was nice.

As a feminist I was secretly aghast by the whole thing. It seemed like a scenario straight out of “The Handmaid’s Tale.” But that’s partly what intrigued me. How could you rent another woman’s womb? How could a mother take money to carry a baby for someone else? A baby she’d give up any rights to? Was she being exploited? Or was it truly her choice? I wanted to understand it. The ethical and legal issues, just being hashed out in society and the courts, were profound.

They still are. I thought about that young surrogate mother when I read about India’s booming surrogacy business in the New York Times
--an industry that generates an estimated $450 million a year. It seemed a natural time to revisit the issue and the passions it stirs. Sharon B. Urfberg at Women’s Media Center takes a hard look at surrogacy in India through a recent award-winning documentary.

She writes:

In “Made in India,” the filmmakers expose the deliberately misleading and inaccurate information that men and women involved in the reproductive outsourcing business on both sides of the world provide their clients. They uncover deceitful practices especially around issues concerning fees and compensation.

Oh, that young surrogate mother? A few months after she had the baby, I interviewed her. She cried when she spoke of him. So much for business.

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Read more from "Made in India": Outsourcing Surrogate Motherhood at Women's Media Center

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LMJ84 5 pts

I am with Kelly on this. While the Indian Surrogacy is questionable, surrogacy IS NOT Baby selling. The child a surrogate (LIKE ME) Carries is in no way related to the Surrogate. It doesn't carry the surrogates genes. So how is that baby selling when it BELONGS to the Parents whom will take over raising the child after its birth! A surrogate is simply babysitting the child until its able to go home with its parents whom would be unable to show a child love and learn the love of a child without the surrogate. I Do NOT feel like I am at an extreme disadvantage AT ALL.....If you haven't been a surrogate and haven't interviewed MULTIPLE than you should really keep your mouth shut or not write an article. It sounds to me like you intentional looked for surrogates who would give the feed back you were looking for instead of doing every perspective. I know A LOT of surrogates, and every single one of them have nothing but good things to say about surrogacy. With that said I am PROUD to be a surrogate. I am PROUD that i will be able help someones dream of having a child come true! Surrogates have pure hearts and want nothing more than to help someone have what they already have themselves. For whomever below mentioned not being able to give the baby up. You're looking at it from the wrong perspective. We surrogates DO NOT give up a baby WE GIVE IT BACK!

Mona Gable 5 pts

Kelly

I appreciate your feelings and your perspective. My main concern is with the lack of regulation around surrogacy that persists to this day. Many surrogates are at an extreme disadvantage because their rights aren't protected. I'm happy for the women here who had a wonderful experience. That's good to hear.

For the record, my series was not about one couple, but several.

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Leslie Whitney
Leslie Whitney

To me it seems like adoption is "buying babies" with the huge amounts of money that is exchanged. Adoption should be free. And I see nothing wrong with surrogacy, assuming everyone is willing and honest.

Jessica Charania
Jessica Charania

If Surrogacy is buying a baby then what is adoption? I mean, you're picking your child out of a lot & paying. I say that to show how ignorant the statement is.

BlogHer
BlogHer

Thanks for your feedback Kelly. I'm glad you shared your feelings about the title of this post and that link. - Denise

Kelly Tharp Rummelhart
Kelly Tharp Rummelhart

While I have issues with Indian Surrogacy, as a 2x Gestational Surrogate I have even more issues of you calling Surrogacy "Buying Babies" . . . I am sure the ONE couple and surrogate you interviewed was a representation of all IPs and Surrogates everywhere . . . perhaps you should take a course on Research.

If you're interested in a different perspective feel free to visit here: http://justthestork.blogspot.com/2010/11/noh8-camp...

However I have a feeling that you have your mind made up before you've even done your research.

NaLonni Madden
NaLonni Madden

I wish I could be a surrogate mother but I dont think I could handle it.....I loved being pregnant and may want to keep the baby....oops.

NaLonni Madden
NaLonni Madden

It's illegal in AZ?????? whaaa???

Angie Rapids
Angie Rapids

I was a surrogate 16 years ago. It was one of the most defining moments of my life.

Shanna Rangel
Shanna Rangel

I would and have for year had the desire the carry a baby for another mama/daddy. I live in AZ where its Illegal.

Jaimie Goodrich
Jaimie Goodrich

Surrogacy is a blessing, for those of us like myself and others who have had hysterectomy surgery but still have our ovaries and eggs, but can't carry.. Or whatever the situation, allows us to still have a child of our own, but grown inside another angels womb. Its not renting. Buying or swapping a baby or babies. I would not buy a baby, but I would pay for the surrogates care and bills and all costs that arise. But hiding money and not paying is just cruel especially when the surrogate has no idea what they have agreed to do!!

Janae Krell
Janae Krell

Surrogacy is not buying babies. I was a surrogate... Last year I gave birth to triplets for another couple. Those babies were never mine, I just helped grow them for a couple who couldn't do it on their own.

Michelle LeBlanc Magoffin
Michelle LeBlanc Magoffin

I wouldn't buy a baby anywhere. I would adopt from my county. I WILL adopt from my county as my little ones are both in school.