A Tween Girl's Desire to Fit In
Do you remember being a tween, or as they called them back in my day, a pre-teen? What fashions were all the rage? Did you have them? I didn't. Not because we didn't have the money but because my mom tended toward more classic pieces of clothing. It was hard at times because I didn't quite fit in. Literal Mom recently had an exchange with her tween after a shopping trip that made her heart soar and plummet all at the same time.
On the one hand, she does understand:
20 steps out of the store, she said, "Mom?" And it sounded like she was on the verge of tears.
I turned around and looked her in the eye, watching her balance her huge bag in front of her.
"Thank you for taking me there tonight and buying all of this. Now I finally feel like I'm going to fit in."
Yes, she had tears in her eyes.
And my heart soared and plunged all at once. If that's possible.
It soared for the truth of her statement. I know that clothing styles can often help a girl "fit in" or "not." To put it mildly. I know that shopping at certain stores makes all the difference in certain circles. At certain ages.
I was a girl once too.
Her post goes on and hits on many of the trials and tribulations of growing up and fitting in -- even when it comes to parenting. You should read the whole thing.