What NOT to Say to Spiritual Abuse Victims

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When someone has been betrayed by a church or spiritual leader, they are in a unique place of pain and thoughtless words can only make it worse. When in doubt, just listen:

1. "Your bad experience prevents you from seeing this PRESENT circumstance/church/pastor objectively." This implies a survivor’s instincts and insights are are invalid. Here’s the thing: maybe our abusive experiences aren’t The Rule but they do provide insight into how abuse happens and how it is propagated.

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