Social Media and the Tip of the Iceberg

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Going into this upcoming year, in addition to your other resolutions, make sure you give yourself a new outlook on social media that you keep longer than February.  While we may think we have the whole story reading someone else's blog or Facebook feed or Twitter account, remember that we're looking at a curated life and not the whole picture.  We all have details we share and details we hide for various reasons, and the main thing to remember is to not compare your life to another person's life since what you're really comparing it to is a snippet of their life and not the whole deal.

Moments of Exhilaration has an excellent post explaining where her boundaries lie on blogging.  Though she seems very open in her blogging, she also points out things she doesn't write about and admits that she fears she is creating a false sense of her marriage, parenting, or writing career because of what she withholds.

Despite the fact that I have shared some of my most personal moments, there are other things I haven’t shared. I have written about my battle with depression, about my struggle to figure out what to do with my life, my failings as a mother, my self-doubt as a writer. You would be forgiven for thinking that I had shared everything. But you would be wrong.

We all withhold and we all rationally know that others are withholding too, but the question remains whether we can apply this knowledge to how we process another person's pinboards or blog and hold our jealousy in check.


Image: rghrous via Flickr

Melissa writes Stirrup Queens and Lost and Found. Her novel about blogging is Life from Scratch.


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