The problem this Cosmo reader encountered is one that I have always been irked by.

From a semi-related post on Female Impersonator:

This attitude was shown in one of the “Cosmo Confessions” featured monthly in Cosmopolitan magazine:

“Once a month, my boyfriend has a guy’s night out with his buddies.
Normally, they shoot poll or go to a ball game. But last month, I
overheard him making plans to go to a strip club. It really upset me
that he didn’t bother asking how I felt about his sticking dollar bills
in other women’s G-strings. Instead of confronting him, I did some
investigating and found out that the night he was planning to go to the
club happened to be amateur night, which meant that any girl could get
on stage and dance. So I called a few girlfriends, and we headed to the
club. After a few drinks, I surprised my guy as one of the novice
strippers. He was so shocked that he just froze–until I started
undressing. Then he jumped on the stage and begged me to come down,
promising me he’d never go to a nudie bar again.”

I think it’s great that the male partner in this story realized how
his female partner must feel about his being there by how he felt
seeing her up there. I wish more men could have the visceral experience
this one did. Many men say that they should be able to go to strip
clubs, but wouldn’t want their girlfriend to strip. They justify this
by saying that they themselves would not strip, and that they wouldn’t
care if their girlfriend saw a male strip show. This is not a
equivalent comparison to me, and I’m going to try to elaborate a little
on why I think this.

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