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South Asian Woman Accused of Death Threats Against Ontario Premier

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How many times have you said, “I’ll kill you” in jest? PhD and freelance journalist Neelam Vir will now always think twice before she utters those words again. In this week’s Toronto Star readers learned that the 40-year old writer and teacher had been arrested twice for allegedly uttering death threats against Ontario Liberal Premier, Dalton McGuinty ( for all of you who don’t know what a premier is, it is like a U.S Governor not Senator as previously written).

On September 30th Vir, whom after previously meeting McGuinty at a community event, dropped off a package containing an instant mix to prepare gulab jamun an Indian sweet, to his assistant. Later that evening, she emailed the Premier to see if the assistant had given it to him. In the message, she wrote “If she didn’t give it to you, I’ll kill her.” Almost two months later, she was arrested at her home for conveying a death threat. After six hours in custody, she was released and two days later, she was arrested again, after she emailed the Premier in an attempt to explain herself.

In The Star article, Vir is portrayed in a way that I am sure is accurate: A smart and kind woman, both her and her husband obtained their PhD’s in India and emmigrated to Canada in 2002. Fustrated that they could not obtain the same careers they had in India, Vir’s husband eventually opened a butcher shop and Vir became a supply teacher; worked as an airport security guard and freelanced for a Punjabi newspaper in Mississauga. As a writer, she would obsessively email Municipal, Provincial and Federal politicians about her and her husband’s situation and the problems that foreign trained professionals faced when emmigrating to Canada. Prior to meeting McGuinty, she had written around 200 emails to his office, beginning from July of last year until her arrest.

"In India, you can't even approach a politician. Here, they're accessible and open to hearing from constituents, so that's what I was doing," Vir says.
Thrilled to get a form-letter reply from McGuinty that used her first name, Vir mailed him a rakhi (symbolic thread) last August, referring to him as "Big B," her big brother.
At a Sept. 17 Liberal news conference at a Toronto bookstore, Vir handed McGuinty's teacher wife, Terri, her resumé in the misguided hope she might help her find a job.

Since the article appeared on February 26, there has been a flood of letters to the newspaper and on Canadian blogs about Vir's arrests. The most contentious part of this story that Vir used as a defense to her actions has been widely discussed, as she says that it was a 'cultural misunderstanding' that led her to be arrested. She didn’t know the North American etiquette about email and more importantly she argued that the phrase, ‘I will kill you,’ and / or similar phrasing used in jest, is common in Indian culture. As an immigrant, she says, she was unaware of Canadian political correctness. She blames the Liberal party and Canada for her predicament.

So did the Premier’s office overreact? The politician said that he wasn't even aware of the details about the situation until reading the reoprts in The Star, claiming that he had been in the dark. Blogs like Sepia Mutiny that focuses on South Asian culture and politics, has a hot debate going on. Even though it is usually not that great to post comments, there have been quite a number of South Asian people who are upset that Vir is accusing Canada for her arrest:

Her behavior is embarrassing. She seems well qualified but apparently not well educated.

Some are sympathetic:

I have a pretty mixed (leaning negative) view how Canada's official multicultural policy has played out. The sentiment's good, and desirable, but in practice it (or rather, it, in conjunction with a variety of other peculiarities of how a good portion of immigration plays out in Canada) has lead to a lot of counterproductive self-segregation.

Of course, the more 'right wing’ Canadian bloggers have weighed in on the situation, upset that the Canadian government might have to foot the bill for Vir’s legal defense:

I predict no criminal charges for Vir. Instead, a judge will order we spend tens of thousands of dollars for her therapy and orientation course on acceptable cultural Canadian language. Deportation? Forget it. She's sick, remember?
If I had written a death threat against any politician's staff I'd be jailed and fined. Why? I'm a native Canadian

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lainad 5 pts

Because she wanted a job in her profession and thought that if she could develop a relationship with a politician, they would help her out. Foolish, I know, but on the other hand, how many friends of politicians have garnered parliment jobs?

About the slang, where that where the 'cultural misunderstanding' comes in. Perhaps she didn't realize that it was inappropriate..........

writergal8 5 pts

Why would she attempt to be so friendly with the premier and his people? It's never appropriate to use slang when addressing professional staff.

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Crunchy Carpets 5 pts

Of the volumes of communication she was sending.

It was no doubt becoming stalkerish in proportions.

However, I also wonder if the reaction would have been same if she had been white and had a name like smith.

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snigdhasen 5 pts

The fact that she kept writing to the premier after her arrest just to "clear things up" is plain stupid. It appears to me she was desperate to make amends. Her behavior may not be illegal in India, but will not be welcome there either. People will likely find her irritating.

Which is why I say I am uncomfortable with immigrants not making an attempt to learn norms of the country of their choice. Cultural differences can't be an excuse all the time.

People are sensitive to different things in different parts of the world, and we have to make an attempt to get accustomed to it. As you may have read on Sepia Mutiny, may immigrants land up living in communities of their own people for so long that they can go for days or months without having to speak in English.

This is a problem.

If they choose to stay in Canada, I do hope they make an attempt to learn more about Canadian and the Western norms of behavior. I, too, am not particularly inclined to let her off the hook. It is a good lesson for a lot of people in the community, I hope.

I often thought my husband is paranoid because he's always so cautious about what he says and what topics we discuss when we are in public. I think I now see some merit in it :)

I was lucky I had very sweet friends when I came here. I would ask them so many silly questions about what I should say and what I shouldn't and what somebody meant when he/she said or did something.
I am glad I did :)

Thanks Lainad. You are sweet, but I feel that the onus is on us immigrants to learn how to live in a new country. Especially if we are educated, there's very little excuse. Mistakes will be made, but we must be quick to make amends as well.

Thanks!

lainad 5 pts

When I was writing the post I had a sinking feeling when I chastized the "Big B" thinking that perhaps I should have done a bit of research about why she used that term! Perhaps that is a bit of cultural misunderstanding of my own.

Funny how we are so ingrained to think that there are standard 'norms' that everyone automatically abides by, making us ( perhaps unfairly ) judge the behaviors of people whose norms are not the same as ours.

I hope Vir does not move back to India over this situation, though. It would be nice if people (such as myself) would take this situation to think twice about the differences in language and culture within our culturally diverse country. I am conflicted however, over the amount of emails she had sent and despite being arrested, emailed the Premier again........

snigdhasen 5 pts

I was in two minds about writing a post on this.

Thank you for doing it! That way, there will be no "cultural misunderstanding", I hope :D

I was a bit uncomfortable with the whole thing. And very sad. Sad that such highly qualified people should feel the need to immigrate from a modern India with a fair amount of opportunities to take up jobs that barely require a high school or college degree.

I am guessing they had pressing personal reasons to do so.

That she said "I'll kill you" in jest is totally believable. However, the pressure she felt to appease some people in power, ostensibly in the hopes of landing a better job, makes it really sad. I know people do it in India, and it does yield favorable results.

She is right when she says politicians are not as forthcoming in India, but if you do find a way to reach them, you may land up getting some help.
And calling someone big brother is also common. We are all brothers and sisters in India, you know :)

However, the fact that so many immigrants don't find it necessary to learn the social norms of the country they choose to live in, makes me really uncomfortable.

(Why they waited for two months to arrest her, I can't figure.).

I felt really sad when I read this piece. At the risk of being termed insensitive (since I don't know what her real circumstances are), I wish they find a way to pack their bags and return home with dignity and find jobs there suitable to their qualifications.

I'm sure this is a lesson she is not going to forget in a hurry. I won't.

Snigdha

Kuri 5 pts

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