Sowing Good Seeds this Christmas - Real Values for the Holidays
By randamace on November 29, 2010
We all tell our children to be kind to others. To treat others as we want to be treated. To be considerate and compassionate of others. And yet, we still fight the "me" mentality and struggle to convey what giving gifts symbolizes. Christmas, Hanukah, Kwanzaa, or just the season has simply become a way for kids to get goodies and adults stretched so thin between engagements, they can't wait for the season to slow down. I got to thinking that this season isn't about what I am going to buy, wrap, or get; it needs to be about what I am going to do.
Teaching my son to be kind doesn't go very far when mommy honks at others in traffic. Or when mommy makes family gatherings a chore, sighing over the mashed potatoes and complaining about having to make the sides again. My son sees my frustration, my frantic shopping, and all my actions throughout the season. What are they teaching him? More importantly, what kind of person am I? From the outside, it looks like all I care about is the "retail Christmas" and the politics of family gatherings. Not the reason for the season.
I made a commitment to myself this year, and held myself accountable by announcing it, to be a better person. This year, I am going to sow 25 "good seeds". Not because I want a good "harvest", because that may never happen, but because it's the right way to honor Christmas and what it's about for me. I profess to be a Christian, but you would never know it based on how I act. No matter what religion you are, if any, I am sure that at times you feel the same. Like you say one thing, but do another.
This year, I made my kindness list and am including projects my family and I can do together. Our list is secret, and we'll do some things anonymously. Because it isn't about us. It's about others. So far, I am only up to 18, but I am sure by Christmas, the opportunities to fill it will come. That will be part of the fun. My son will learn the lessons I really want him to learn from my ACTIONS. Hopefully, we'll all be better people for it.
Will your family sow some good seeds this holiday season as well?