The Steps We Take to Find A Husband and Marry Later in LIfe

Attention: Ladies over 40!

Throw away those thoughts that it is impossible to find someone to melt your heart. We never gave up and finally married at 50! You just have to open your life to the possibility of meeting that special partner, and do a few extra things to make your self more available. It isn’t work ladies. Think of it as an adventure!

Get rid of the negative beliefs that there are no good men, they are all taken, interested in dating younger women or the idea it is very hard to meet interesting men.

Take a step back and look at the way you fill your daily life. Is it all work, family obligations or always lunching with the girls? These are many opportunities to meet someone, you just have to do your research.

Through our dating lives, we have met wonderful men through clubs and groups based on our common interests, whether they were social, recreational, educational or athletic endeavors. Think about what activities you like, your energy level and how you imagine your life will be with a husband.

Do you prefer reading a book on the weekends and lounging around the house? If so, meeting a man who loves outdoor activities and sports may not be your best choice.

Balance your inner life with your outward life. Research has shown going out 2-3 times a week to selected activities increases your chances of meeting someone. However, going out 5 or more times decreases your chances, as you will appear desperate and perhaps unhappy with your own company.

We have found the most valuable lesson in meeting someone to spend the rest of your life with is the ability to be happy and content with just your own company. Elizabeth took a sabbatical from dating for a year before meeting her husband. It was a year of getting to know herself, focusing on the values she was looking for in a partner and knowing she wouldn’t settle for just anyone, but a man who totally filled her heart and protected it.

When dating, reveal your true self from the very beginning. What do you have to lose? You will weed out anyone who is not right for you and save your self a lot of wasted time. Life is short enough as it is without dating unavailable or uninteresting men just to date.

Create romance, kindness and a caring attitude with the men you are with. These outward gestures, if from the heart, will often lead to the altar. We insisted on being treated like ladies from the very beginning, and have never opened a door since.

Don’t be afraid to be selective. Know inside when there is a connection. Not only a sexual one but a true, deep and more personal connection. (However, DON'T exclude the first one!) Be patient with men you meet. If you don’t hear wedding bells on the first date but he seems pleasant and interesting, give yourself time to get to know him. You will know soon in your heart. After several dates, be wary of the man who is dating multiple women. He may not be a candidate for settling down with just one woman in marriage as you had hoped, but instead enjoys working the crowd. That might have been fun when you were 23, but now you are at a different life stage, and it’s ok to eliminate any potential heartbreak down the road.

Again, our best advice is to be true to your self. Mr. Wonderful is waiting just around the corner when you least expect him!

Have fun!

Hugs,

Elizabeth & Marsha

www.marryinglaterinlife.com

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