I'm like your husband and my wife is like you. I rarely allow things to stress me out. My wife on the other hand, is a bundle of stress. I help her to calm down and examine situations objectively.  

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Sometimes my wife and I seem like we are the same person, but when you look closely, you can see that we are opposites in many ways. I deal with stress by withdrawing and ignoring difficult situations. My wife deals with stress by vocalizing, complaining, and sometimes blowing things out of proportion. On good days those two things balance: I minimize and she maximizes and we end up somewhere in the middle. On bad days, she complains, I minimize, she complains louder, and I minimize even more. Luckily, we're fairly good at recognizing our patterns and adusting.

The other area we are opposites is that I'm an outrageous optimist and she's and outrageous pessimist. This generally works very much in our favor. Some new idea comes up and I start spinning off in ten directions thinking about how great it's going to be. She immediately sees all the ways its going to fail. Usually that means we catch problems before they really become problems and we still have the enthusiasm we need to move forward.

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My husband and myself are both equally likely to be anxious and stressed out about things.  But now that I read faroop's post, that makes me think on a bit.

We deal with decision making very differently.  I tend to go - "ah what the hell, who knows what's going to happen anyway" and just make my choice.  My husband will endlessly go around and around "but what if..." .  This is not always good, as it can mean that he lets me make decisions for both of us that he is not neccesarily fine with.

The good part is that - I tend to get us over the big bumps like - "should we move" and so on.  My husband makes the rest happen like managing our taxes, insurance, medical aid - the stuff that requires close attention and a pessimistic outlook.

While we both tend to be a bit too intense and stressed out, I do find we generally balance one another out as we dont usually go into full on freak out mode at the same time.  In fact, the thing which is most likely to make me steady out is if I see he is wobbling badly and in need of some support.  And vice versa.  But things can get sort of hyper if we are both spin out at the same time.

I went to a facilitation course once, where we talked about coping/management styles.  It seems if your boss is a real big picture person, then you'll probably start developing more interest in details (well, somebody has to).

I think stress relationships is kinda the same.  Maybe something is bothering you, and your husband isn't fussed - you might end up thinking "well, somebody has to worry about these things"

or he sees how stressed you are, and realises you need him to be calm right now. 

In my relationship with my husband, we fluctuate. I do stress about more stuff than him, but if he's worried, I'll step up and be the calm one.  Because by the time his worry works its way to the surface, it's a BIG worry.

Accentuate each other - that makes a lot of sense to me.  Thanks for that :)

While we both have our quirks, like I need things a certain way, everything in its place, i can tell imediately if someone moved something slightly, I need all the doors closed or I will even wake up in the dark lol, I am partially chaotic but I know where evrything is still, I usually take the happy approach and don't fret over things too long, I am social and many tell me more bout themselves in the first 5 min I met them than I really want to know. I think a lot and I ramble on. I love to discuss and explain why I did what I did or why things r the way they are...

He is very quiet, rather pessimistic, and he takes things slow.. , he worries a lot, doesnt care bout my door issue lol, he likes it all in order and he is usually reserved till he knows someone better..

We both tend to procrastinate, and like it mellow in our own way.. its hard to describe but we fill in the part the other one doesn't have or is. It works out pretty good. Sometimes it gets weird but we talk a lot.. well he talks when I catch a breath but that works out fine cause when he talks i get to take a break lol. He says he uses the time I ramble to sort his thoughts in combination with what i said and then he can answer better. I personally dont like breaks in conversations.. cracks him up. But anyway this is how we deal with stress we talk about it he mellows me while I lift him up when he worries bout his things. It's important to talk, while it seems when you are stressed the last thing you want to do is sit down and talk for us it works wonders.. we regulate each other and our ways of stress like that. And if things get really bad we hug, cuddle and kiss where ever it may be take a deep breath and we both smile. Sounds cheesy but hey its coping :)

I also have the hot temper while he is rarely rarely ever more than even tempered lol so i can't go too long with my hot temper cause i feel silly :D so that works in our favor as well :D

I just had this same exact train of thought last night when I was flipping out from stress and my husband just couldn't comprehend what on Earth was stressing me out so bad. He is the cool, let everything roll off his back type...which drives me insane. Of course, I wish I could be more like him...which drives me even more insane ;)