Take A Celebrex and Smile: Your Family Needs You

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How many of you out there know that deep down underneath your exterior, there is a supermom lurking about? Any takers? Ok. Some of us don’t think of ourselves this way. Sadly, we are treading obstacles at every turn, wondering if we are doing our very best while maintaining traces of our femininity. But when life knocks us down, when it takes us down a notch, we scramble to regroup defiantly clinging to life as we know it.

There are times when women live with crippling pain, but refuse to do anything about it. We worry about the impact our illness or injuries will have on our families. We worry if the pain is real or imagined. Although it may seem that the world may end as our families know it when we are down and out, sometimes, our bodies could care less about what others think. Unfortunately, we usually smile and bear it until our bodies give out on us.


Recently, in an interview with ABC-11 News Anchor, Frances Scott, she admitted that one of the ways she persevered through her double hip surgery was because of the support she received from her family. Scott, a mother of three, had suffered through more than ten years of agonizing pain. There were times when the pain was nearly debilitating she admitted.

For years, doctors thought her pain stemmed from her back. There were those who thought here’s “another person just trying to get pain meds,” Scott joked. But test after test were surprisingly inconclusive.

Finally, during a routine exam, her doctor questioned her medication usage. Including Flexoril and Celebrex had become a normal part of her daily routine to get through the pain she said in a radio interview on “Bob and The Showgram.”

It was this knowledge that prompted her doctor to do more tests. Then, she was diagnosed with hip dysplasia (an abnormal formation of the hip socket, which can cause arthritis-like symptoms and debilitation).

In fact, she admitted that even on her worse days, when the pain was too much to bear, she and her husband attempted to make light of the situation. Most of the time, she had to grin her way through it. That’s not to say that she didn’t have her moments. “There were times when I sobbed and sobbed,” Scott admitted.

Scott continued with “One day I just sobbing and sobbing when my daughter said, ‘it’s alright mommy.’ I know. But what if I can’t be here for you all,” the reality of her situation began to take hold. Doubts and fear plagued her even though she push forward through grueling bouts of physical therapy, follow-up appointments with a neurologist as she struggled to relearn how to walk and how to live with her current condition.

Soon, her daughter told her, “it’s ok mommy. You’re here now.”

It was this reality, these brief words of wisdom from her daughter that helped her woman up. Even during her roughest times when she battled depression, she admitted she’d find a sign or receive the most unexpected gifts.

“One day I was feeling so low because my house was dirty. My floors hadn’t been cleaned in forever; I’ve been out of work for six months, the finances were strained, the house was a mess, so of course I felt like a failure because we, as women often feel that way when we can’t keep our house clean. We feel like a failure as a mother, wife and provider. So when I was feeling low, I looked down and found this bead that said hope. It was just so unexpected.”

Scott laughed and told how she had to learn to let her husband do for her and himself; how she had to let her friends and family do for her; how she struggled to let her children do for her and themselves. It was an experience that taught her who her friends truly were.

It also confirmed that her husband still loved her, even though she’d “become whiny,” extremely “emotional,” “dependent” and felt like a bother all the way around.

Scott, like many mothers, reminds us that sometimes, things spiral beyond our control. In fact, she insisted that people should carry disability insurance because when you’re hurt, that money, though it’s only a fraction of your salary, can help you stay afloat.

You don’t appreciate the little things until you can’t do them anymore. At these moments, you take what you can and leave the rest. You tackle what you can handle and focus on the big picture, taking it day by day. Advice we can all agree with.

“There are times when I live in fear that the pain will come back,” Scott told one listener who called in to speak to her about his own situation. She ended with that’s why “I take things day by day. So today is a good day.”

***N. Meridian is a proofreader, editor, author of the forthcoming memoir, No Crying for Elena, and freelance writer of various subjects. You can follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/#!/inameridian. Also, you can reach her directly at nmeridian@hotmail.com.***

Photo Credit: emmaline.


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