No Comfort

"I DON'T WANT YOU!" my three and a half year-old daughter roars, fists clenched at her sides, body rigid, tears and snot coating her face."I DON'T WANT YOU!" she roars again mid-meltdown then jumps up and down screaming at the top of her lungs.I hardly recognize this enraged little person. 95% of the time my kid is joyful, happy, hilarious, and extremely kind.But that other 5% of the time.Meltdowns.Spectacular, epic, blow-the-roof-off meltdowns.Filled with rage....more

Brown Eyes Blue Eyes

For the past 24 hours or so, the English-speaking world has been ablaze with the mystery of the blue/black/white/gold dress.  What colour is it really? Is the whole thing a click-bait scam? Who sees what? It’s been one of those Internet phenomena that verify what a small planet this is, how close we all are and yet how different. And how many of us are willing to be completely and utterly diverted by trivia. It came during a week in which perspective and disparity in how we see the world has weighed heavily on me....more

A Note, A Phone, and Faded Memories of Adoption

We looked through old papers tonight, pages of them, some in English, most in Spanish, documents pulled out of a torn white envelope, each one signifying some step in the adoption of one of our three children from Nicaragua. In the papers were names we had forgotten, names of people and places. ...more

Because Adoption, Because Attention Deficit Disorder, Because Absolutely Everything, Because Nothing

Over the past few years, the following things have been offered to us as possible "causes" for the behavioral problems we have experienced with our seven-year-old son, Harper. Most of the time the suggestions have been made in love, purely out of concern. Occasionally they have been "casually" dropped into a conversation in correction or judgement. Some are shoved down our throats via Facebook articles and blogs. ...more If you are interested in learning more about RAD, our family was ...more

Are we breaking?

We Fell in Love Online

I know plenty of people who have successfully found love through online dating. I even know some folks who have grown their families by starting the adoption process or the search for a sperm donor online. It never occurred to me that we would fall in love online, but we did....more

Faithfully Adopting

Faithfully Adopting.    Looking back on going to Cambodia to work with some orphanages this past summer,  I really didn't know what to expect. As one of the newer believers on the mission team, I wasn't sure what God wanted me to do over there.  ...more

Juggling as fast as I can

A day in a life, my life as a stay at home mom is not sitting home watching TV or reading a book or even sitting and eating.  A day in my life can have me everywhere doing everything all at once....more
Sounds like quite a journey you are on with your youngest. I truly admire your decision to seek ...more

Let the child be the witness

Circus, 2011...more

Six Things I’ve Learned from Adopting My Children

I can’t let National Adoption Month pass without comment.                        I have both kinds of kids, adopted and biological.  Please don’t ask me who the “real” child is.  They are all very real to me.  Plus, the real vs. adopted descriptor is outdated.  You CAN say biological or adopted....more