The Boy Who Was Meant To Be Our Son

    The time had come for my husband and me to make a momentous decision that would change our lives forever. Both of us had grown up in big families; Mike had five siblings, and I had six. We both knew the joys and happiness of being part of a large family, and we wanted to have the same kind of family - with four children, at least. ...more

I'm Back (and Conversations with Esme...)

It's hard for me to believe that my amazing girl is almost three years old.And that I haven't written on this blog for more than two years. What the heck happened???Motherhood.That's what happened....more

Matchmaking and Adoption

I learned yesterday at work that when Orthodox Jews are “dating” (used loosely as it is more akin to matchmaking), they are not allowed to speak to other potential partners. Granted, this could be incorrect as I didn’t grill my friend about it. She was talking about a family member to another friend and mentioned that even though there was another very interesting young lady that he would be a good match with, he is currently committed to seeing if he is a match with another young lady....more

Finding my voice: Why I blog

I’ve been a blogger since November 2011. Click here to read my first post ever. Don’t laugh.   I recently joined BlogHer, a place where female bloggers can connect and learn. I know. I need more social media like I need more shoes. Wait, I do need more shoes. Forget I said that.   Seriously, as a writer trying to find my voice, BlogHer is the candy store and I am the kid....more

I don't want to find my biological family

I tended to exploit my origins during interviews, but the real reason I chose teaching English in Korea over Japan (since I had studied Japanese in college) was that I knew I could get a permanent resident visa.  In order to get that visa, I had to dig up all my adoption papers.  Naturalization certificate, amended birth certificate, certificate of adoption, adoption record.  Fill out some paper to formally renounce my Korean citizenship and change my name (which proved unnecessary).And I actually read my stuff for the first time....more
JillR Definitely.  The worst is when I read things that say something like "adoption is ...more

Confessions of an older mother

Do twenty-somethings spend a lot of time pondering what life will look like at forty-something?I remember my twenties.  Sort of.  I don’t remember spending a ton of time thinking about what I’d be doing at forty-something. Why? Because forty-something was far, far in the future. And because forty-something was…well, old.I’m pretty sure twenty-something me would not have expected to be parenting toddlers, not that twenty-something me thought that far in to the future....more

People Question...

People question why I blog. I have been blogging on different platforms since 2000. I do it for myself. For my well-being. To share my story.People question if I/we are adopting to just get a child. Yes, of course. We want a son or daughter. Or both. But also to raise them and make them even more amazing little people....more

10 Things You Need to Know About Adopting from Foster Care

Before adopting two awesome kids who came into my life through foster care, I had this idea in my mind that the whole ordeal would be kind of like what happened in Annie. We would just be handed a precocious, well-adjusted child that we would rescue from their dire straits through love and perseverance and possibly a few well-timed choreographic musical numbers. The truth is that it’s infinitely more complicated than that, although it is equally thrilling and wonderful—minus the giant mansion and, sadly, Punjab. We could all use a little Punjab in our lives. ...more
Love love love this! Thank you for this post! My husband and I are 9 (NINE! AHHH!) days away ...more

NFPA/FSFAPA Conference & Ballerina Update

We had an amazing time this past weekend (June 6-8) at the NFPA/ FSFAPA Conference. Between meeting folks from across the nation, to playing in the pool with our friends kids, seeing old friends and family, and all the sessions... And not to mention the pillows. OMW the pillows. My bed had 5 of the softest, fluffiest pillows....more

3rd Visit with Ballerina

It's amazing what one week and one extra visit can do....more