A Break in the Storm

It's been raining all day here in Virginia, which is an appropriate setting for how I've been feeling lately. We've had a few calls here and there lately that have taken us down one rabbit hole after another only to find us falling fast onto a hard, impenetrable concrete floor. No one ever said this was going to be easy....more

I Hope You're Happy Now

I've been thinking a lot since my debut post about adoption. My brother and I talked about it (he actually divulged he has now lost that once irresistible desire to meet our birthmother and his birthfather), both wondering about people who thought adoption meant your parents didn't want you. What these sort of people don't seem to understand is that it's a very difficult decision....more
 @@BehavioralChild If I ever do meet her, I'll definitely let you guys know her story.   Thank ...more

She comes home...part 2

 Tuesday, August 30, 2011. Late evening.The extra-large purple LL Bean duffel bag on wheels is sitting in the nursery where it has remained  (fully packed with all things newborn baby....diapers, onesies, swaddling blankets, pacifiers, car seat base, etc.) since early March. Since our other adoption fell through.Chris and I never had the heart to unpack the carefully packed duffel bag once we found out that we would not be going to Arizona on March 11 to meet the little baby we thought and hoped would be joining our family....more
 @nikonMom Thanks so much for stopping by and taking the time to not only read the post, but to ...more

Do Nothing Days

We've had the best weekend so far ... we've done absolutely nothing! Sometimes do nothing days are the very best days, don't you agree?...more

She comes home...part 1

It's 2:37 a.m. and before our 5 week-old daughter can wake up her daddy with more "I'm hungry!" cries, I scoop her up out of her bed-top co-sleeper and whisk her off to the nursery for a bottle....more

Unexpected Pregnancy? There's Another Choice

When Robert and I first decided to adopt, we worked with an adoption agency to complete our initial home study. As part of that home study, we were asked to read The Third Choice - A Woman's Guide to Placing a Child for Adoption. It was my first introduction to adoption from the perspective of a birth mother. ...more

What to Say to a Trans-Racial Adoptive Family

Here's the kicker folks: there is rarely such thing as an obviously adoptive family. One of my friends is in a bi-racial marriage and her kids favor her non-Caucasian husband, and she gets questions about "where they come from" often. I don't know how she responds but I know I would want to say, "My children come from my uterus," or if I were feeling snippy, "My husband impregnated me."...more
I think that your post, although well intentioned, shows clearly the age of your child, and the ...more

Adoption From the Perspective of a Birth Mom

I read a lot of blogs and websites about adoption. I want to be as educated as possible about adoption so I can be the best parent possible when we are matched. I read an interesting post today on America Adopts! It's written by and from the perspective of a birth mother.Have a read: Birth Mothers Are People Too...more
As a birth mother, I share some of her thoughts. I was explaining to some of my ...more

Rediscovering the benefits of common ground

I have a dear friend who asks me periodically if we've connected with other adoptive families, and I always tell her we've made no such efforts. When she probes further, asking if that's something we should do, I assure her we've got great friends and don't need it.But that was before Mike and I found ourselves fireside listening to the dulcet tones of NPR’s Scott Simon talking about traveling to China to meet his daughters....more
It's hard for me at times -- as birth parents aren't always open about who they are. Finding a ...more

Adoption Insights From Jamie Lee Curtis

Lately my celebrity crushes have been on celebrities who've adopted. Recent mentions are Sandra Bullock and Mariska Hargitay. My latest celebrity crush is Jamie Lee Curtis. I had no idea she had adopted her kids until I saw a list of notable adoptive parents....more