I heard (part of) this fascating segment on NPR this morning about orphans' brains and how parents physically shape their child's brain.You've probably heard the stories from the 1980 and 1990s about the Romanian orphanages and how there were so many children that the nurses barely had time to hold them all. In fact, some children were left in cribs for days. In this segment, they talked about how that lack of attention can actually damage a child's brain - specifically reduced gray and white matter. These children's brains were actually smaller from lack of attention....more
Adoption can bring out a different side to myself. A tougher, thick-skinned side I did not know existed until faced with questions regarding the backgrounds of my children.We are a multi-cultural family. Thankfully, in 2014, I feel we are in good company. Yet sometimes I encounter a nosy question from a complete stranger. This usually happens when we are at a restaurant. Such as this one when I was having lunch with my son: "Is your husband Asian?"...more
“You’re the meanest Mommy everrrrrrrr! I don’t love you! I don’t even like you!” Ana Lu screeched, stomping on the floor, arms down by her side, hands balled into petite fists … wait for it … followed by the quintessential stomp out of the room. Into her room she goes, catapults herself onto her bed, yanks the comforter over her head and grunts octaves higher than necessary, assuring I get the memo she's pissed.
My mother was a human resources director who had previously taught high school English. Her conversations were full of literary references and tons of quotes used to suit any occasion. It wasn't until years later I would appreciate her quotes. One in particular has held a special meaning for me....more
If you've read this blog for any amount of time, you know I care about orphans. I write about them often, and I'd love to dedicate more of my time and energy to loving them better, finding better solutions for them, and getting them in loving homes quickly.And I think I will....more