10 Things A Sleepless Mama Doesn't Need To Hear

 Rose is a tough sleeper. Some nights, if I'm super, super lucky, she gives me a five hour stretch of sleep. Most nights she wakes every two to three hours. Some nights she just.won't.sleep.I've tried soothing baths, feeding late, feeding early, changing her foods, letting her cry, not letting her cry, physical exercise, a soothing routine...and pretty much nothing has worked. I have been without a good night's sleep for about a year and a half (including the last 3 months of pregnancy, which were pretty uncomfortable for sleep.)...more
Middle of the night hours last between 3 and 65 daytime hours.more

Dementia, The Slow Disaster

“I can deal with shit.” I was making dinner. My mother’s aide had called me. “But not the constipated.” She went on to tell me about having to put her finger up past “clients’” butts when not even enemas did the trick. I was flipping burgers. For dinner. I had to feed my family while discussing feces, the phone cradled on my shoulder. The sizzling ground meat were beginning to look a bit less appetizing.... ...more

Dante-Joe’s 10th Circle of Hell: the Department of Motor Vehicles with Mama

If there is such a thing as reincarnation and Dante has found himself back among us as Joe Blow, US citizen, he is undoubtedly kicking himself.  ...more

The Things I Forgot About Babies {Reminders For Care-Takers Who Have Been Out Of The Baby Game For Too Long}

Some people are made for babies. I am not one of them. There has been no harder stage of life for me than when I had mini people in my house. A seeming endless forever of waiting for them to become complete humans*; for vibrant personalities and meaningful conversations and for thinking myself more than a frumpy, bouncing milk machine....more

Recognizing the Signs of a Heart Attack

Our family and friends recently descended on our parents’ house like a pack of swarming bees. Within a week, mom and dad were host to eleven adults, five dogs and one very spoiled grandson.  Between visits from Santa (who had to use a door vs. the roof), the cutthroat games of Scrabble and the amazing smells coming non-stop from the kitchen, we were fortunate to notice that something wasn’t right with dad....more

The Invisible Man

After his fall, my husband was hospitalized with traumatic brain injury (TBI) and a very high blood-alcohol level.  Given those two factors, complicated by the immaciated body and unshaven, unclean person that emergency room workers were presented with, it was clear he was being labeled  a deralict.  Not on paper; not out load; but in the minds - and behavior - of the staff charged with his care....more

It only hurts when he laughs.

I knew it wasn't going to be easy.  Coming back to an estranged husband after his accident, only to find "my" home in a state of complete and utter filth;  blood-soaked pillows and urine-soaked linens stuffed in garbage bags in the garage; trash piled on countertops and cigarette butts in every toilet.  All this, thanks to the woman who claimed to care so much for him after I left.  You see, he fell one night taking out the trash and hit his head.  She left him lying, bleeding, in a bed for three full days before calling an ambulance.  ...more
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Protecting Children from Childhood Trauma

By Nancy Heath, Ph.D., LMFT Director,  Human Development and Family Studies Programs at American Public University...more


Zayne's sweet side

It's when you're not feeling okay that you would know how kind and caring some people would be. Especially if it comes from a child.In the past few days I’ve been under the weather with coughing and a runny nose. My primary doctor said it is a sinus infection. Whatever, it brings me down and I don't like it....more