Two days of new hire orientation down…four more to go. The first day was typical of any new job orientation. We went over the hospitals foundation, values, & mission. We also learned about the benefits the hospital offers to their employees. I am super excited about getting health insurance, especially considering I haven’t had any for the past two years!...more
A dear friend of mine is having a rough time. Maybe not going into the witness protection program to avoid the Russian mafia (which does NOT exist by the way) kind of rough time, but as rough as us non-made-for-t.v.-movie type people can have. She is in the processing of saying goodbye to a beloved pet who has been failing for quite some time. Unfun. Not a day at the beach, not even the beach located next to a nuclear waste spill. But here she was, doing her best to sound brave and strong and apologizing for coming unglued. I let that sink in for a moment....more
In my previous post about elder care issues, I came up with 10 ideas for managing the stresses of being a caregiver or care manager for elderly or ill parents. Here's the first one from the list: Learn how to speak up for what you need and what you want. Why is this even important? Whether it's leaving a doctor's office with a clear understanding of a medical issue, or knowing for certain that your parent's laundry will be done regularly, knowing what you want and asking for it is the best way to clean up your To Do list.
In my previous post on Elder Care issues, which I called Speaking Up For Yourself, I set out some tips for those caring for an aging parent, on how to start speaking up for what you need and what you want. For me, as my mother aged with dementia, speaking up was an essential skill for regaining some control over my universe. I often think back to that time (my mother passed away a year and a half ago), on what I could have done differently or better. Here are some things related to speaking up that I found invaluable. ...more
In my previous post on Speaking Up For Yourself, I set out some tips for those caring for an aging parent, on how to start speaking up for what you need and what you want. For me, as my mother aged with dementia, speaking up was an essential skill for regaining some control over my universe. I often think back to that time (my mother passed away a year and a half ago), on what I could have done differently or better. Here are some things related to speaking up that I found invaluable. ...more
I’m 10, have 5 siblings, an absent mother that yanked us out of our predictable home and away from my father whom I adored. However, she did not. At 28, with 6 kids, all she could understand was how she was robbed of her youth. She did not want to go to church, hang out with the other mothers, sew clothes, cook dinner, shop or clean. She wanted to march in protest lines, stand up for civil rights, hang out in the “hippy” section of Detroit and blare the Rolling Stones....more
The other day Rob and I took the kids to the playscape at a nearby mall. Within five minutes, Rob was the pied piper to half a dozen kids who were alternately chasing him and being chased in a colossal game of hide and seek. Our boys, of course, loved every minute of it, and I loved watching how other kids were drawn into the mix. My favorite moment: twin girls followed him, saying, "Monster! Monster! Chase us!"...more
Stress is the constant companion of those who care for their aging parent(s). I know. I've been there. So, I'm not going to repeat all that's been written. Instead, I want to go beyond the usual advice. I'm not a psychologist or psychiatrist, but even so I think telling someone "be sure to take care of yourself" is a bit glib....more