Nanny Envy - Is it Normal?

In her brilliant article ‘Nanny Envy – it’s a thing’  Rethabile Mashale discusses an emotion that dare not speak its name: a mother’s jealousy of her nanny. Coining the term “Nanny Envy Syndrome” Mashale talks about job sabotage by employers, where a nanny could be entrapped to make mistakes and therefore legitimately reprimanded. Nanny Envy, Mashale alleges, can even lead to fantasies of termination or actual and abrupt dismissal.  Is Nanny Envy a real problem? I asked Karen Kaufman PhD, LCSW who has worked in the field of mental health for 30 years....more

This is Pediatric Cancer

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Hey Doc., stop giving orders to those who don't want them......

As a childcare provider you learn pretty quickly that a parent will go to enormous lengths to avoid being told no. They simply cannot accept any negative feedback or honest criticism about their child’s behavior or their own.What are extremely hard to swallow are the pediatricians who seem to enable and encourage these “Momzillas” and their ridiculous demands. ...more

5 Things You Should Have Done In Pre-Marital Counseling

I am a Catholic, I married a Catholic, and as such we were required to undergo something called pre-cana class, or pre-marital counseling class, which is typically given by a priest. A PRIEST.   Uuuhhhhh, yea. But NO. I did not want someone who is not actually married giving me advice and counseling on how to be married. Sure,  he is married to Christ, but Jesus doesn't leave the toilet seat up, fart in bed, and forget to buy milk....more

What to say, and NOT to say, when someone is going through a family medical crisis

Things to say to a person going through a family medical crisis:...more


The other day, whilst out and about doing errands, I stopped in to Burger King for a coupon combo.  Sitting in the corner facing the dining area I couldn’t help but notice a young man in his 30’s with a small boy and pre-toddler girl.  The small boy was running around the play area calling out, “Daddy, daddy look at me!,” as the little girl busied herself playing choo-choo train with some french fries at the table.  The young man looked kind and was proving to be attentive in his role of “daddy,” obviously on a solo trip to lunch....more


Hideaways     I wrote this post three years ago while caring for my mother.  She has since passed away but going through my older posts I thought it might be a nice one for caregivers to read to help you through the difficult days.  I know how hard it was at times.  We all need hideaways sometimes. Most mornings I wake at 4:30 and enjoy my ...more

Alzheimer's In Passing

Rena McDaniel-The Diary of an Alzheimer's CaregiverIS ALZHEIMER'S HEREDITARY? WOULD YOU WANT TO KNOW IF YOU HAD IT? JUST QUESTIONS TODAY AND NO ANSWERS!Pt. 10 The conclusion of the caregiver series "How We Got Here" will return next Monday, September 1, 2014...more

Taking care of Mom and Dad

My son likes to remind me that he is my only child. He'll snuggle in my arms and say, "you are just my mommy - no one else has you for a mommy but me." It's possessive and sweet and it comes with a lot of responsibility that he doesn't understand yet....more

Kid-Co Fun

Our weekend started on Friday this week, while the hubby had to work (boo) I decided to ditch the housework and have some fun quality time with my little love bug.  She had been asking for several weeks to go to this local play place called Kid-Co. We went there a few months ago and she fell in love with the place.  Unfortunately, with all of the baby prepping and all the other summer activities we had going on we never went for another visit....more