"The Blue Light" - a Son's Story

 byTracy D. Holloman, MA, ACC, CPC, ELI-MP...more

Driving with dementia; Should you take away a loved one's keys?

When my grandfather started developing Alzheimer's, we knew when it was time to take away the keys. He hit a parked car as he was driving by, taking off the side mirror.For other people, it's not so obvious. And as you can probably guess, trying to take away someone's ability to drive is often taken as a form of repression; you're taking away their freedom in their eyes. Although few seniors probably feel they're perfect drivers (and many will willingly give up driving at night or in busy areas they don't know well), many still want the OPTION....more

Fireside Chat With The Autism Mom: Life After The Autism Waiver

My son, Evan, is 21. We were out of the country immediately after his graduation from high school which was an incredible experience. I have to tell you, Israel is DA BOMB for autism services. There are services for babies, little kids, big kids and adults. TONS OF SERVICES! So many services that they apologize to you for not being able to get your kid into a group home (if they so choose) for 6 months to a year....more
Thanks so much for your comment!!!  You are so right about other cultures and learning about ...more

There Are Wild Dogs Terrorizing My Neighborhood

I was once quoted saying that my neighborhod looks like something out of "The Wonder Years." Each summer, we greet the warming weather with block parties and lemonade stands. Mommies push strollers past well-maintained lawns of neat single-story homes. Children ride their bikes on sidewalks, then rest in the shade of leafy trees. ...more

Who Takes Care of the Care Giver: Care Giving Sucks

A couple of years ago, when a friend of mine lost her mother, I opted to send her a card that said “sorry your day sucked” rather than a traditional sympathy card.  ...more
Love this! And it's so true.more

Mom's Wedding Date

I chose the pretty pharmacy on Columbus to select my wares. My mother was going to a wedding and she needed some cosmetics. I was by myself and I wanted to take the extra ten minutes to choose the right blush and eyeliner and just the right shade of lipstick....more

For the Rest of Your Life

My mother patted my hand as we sat in the Park Avenue neurologist's office. I was grateful, surprised and impressed that such a doctor accepted a senior's less than top-notch health insurance. That's nearly impossible to find. My mother and I had found a moment of tranquility in the turbulent storm of dementia: a prettily lit office that looked like the study of an old college professor and lacked any hint of dreary medical paraphernalia....more

Bridging The Gap in the Hospice Unit

This last Sunday was my final training day in the hospice unit at the hospital. We had to do three classroom and three hospital training days. Nothing you learn in the classroom will really ever prepare you for what really happens "on the unit." It was the best day ever, but I'd like to tell you a little about what hospice volunteers do....more

Taking the Training Wheels Off

On Mothers Day, I had an epiphany. In five years, my oldest daughter probably won't be sharing this day with me. Because she will be away at college. And it hit me like a thud right where my heart and stomach meet. ...more

Autism is NOT a Punishment

I read a piece on Jezabel today which set my blood to boiling. It was about how Toni Braxton wrote in her memoir that she believed that God gave her son Autism as punishment for having an abortion earlier in life. No, really. Her exact words:...more
LeeLee1210 I'm very glad to hear that she doesn't feel that way anymore. I definitely understand ...more