An Eyepatch, a Dog with Sunglasses, and Sunshine by My Side

My son brushed back my hair and examined my eye patch. I put on sunglasses to help hold the mess of a bandage down. "Mommy doctor," he said and signed at the same time. "Mommy's O.K.," I said. I hadn't been able to find the scissors, so I'd ripped the tape with my teeth. I didn't look so good, I admit. Something irritated my eye a few days ago, most likely a contact lens. It felt better closed. ...more

I Want to Tell You More: Sign Language Gives My Son a Voice

I stood in front of my son listening and listening, and I still couldn't understand what he said. He calmly repeated the word over and over. I felt horrible. I wanted to understand more. "Boooey," he said, again. He opened his hand and placed the palm in front of his mouth, as if you were to blow on it, exhibiting patience with me as if he was the speech therapist and I was the student. ...more

3 simple things you can do to increase your kid's self-confidence

3 simple things you can do to increase your kid's self-confidenceBy Ann Morgan James | How to Raise a Millionaire

How to help gifted children survive the middle school years

Just when life seemed manageable, middle school-aged children face confusion and uncertainty. Social demands, hormonal changes, and a burgeoning sense of independence challenge the self that once was. New worlds unfold, and the old rules from elementary school don't work any more. Neither child nor adult, they must discover who they are and how to define themselves....more

My Son Lost His Sister On Saturday - And Learned A Good Lesson In The Process

Something terrible happened to my son on Saturday. He lost his sister.Oh, don't worry – she's fine. And this isn't a case of David wandering off and getting lost from his sister, either. No, this is a case of David, using his words (yay!) in a way that could hurt someone (not so yay) and discovering there are consequences....more
JastrzebskiJ Thanks! I was reminded of the phrase "Be careful what you wish for."more

Traveling by Train with a Special Needs Child: Fourth in a Series

Train! Train! my son yells whenever a train races by. Waiting for a train to go by or waiting at a train station is a delight for my special child. Trains can be a great way to travel. Less stressful than planes, trains shoot across country or a short subway ride. They offer an alternative we enjoy. Here's a few tips to make train travel easier with a special needs child. ...more

How to Be Psychic in One (Big) Step

My daughter asked me: What is a psychic? I loved the question. First, it made me appreciate that even though she has a great vocabulary, the deeper meaning of words and ideas are a vast world waiting to be explored. And, who wouldn't want to be able to look into the future? ...more

Life With Muggles

We are all Harry Potter fans in my house.Thus, we call people who do not have a serious level of non-neurotypical issues “Muggles”. We do that because it is such a convenient shorthand. Muggles can be great. They are fascinating and sometimes baffling. They can be brilliant, and the fact they are normal makes them no less amazing. Most importantly, it reminds us that since Muggles outnumber us everywhere but Hogsmead and Hogwarts (AKA: engineering and software development offices) we need to adapt to them....more
9 and 3/ the place to be.more

Never Agitate the Monkeys or an Autistic Child

This blog post is also posted on my other blog: Perfect ChaosYou know how when you go to zoo, the signs say don't feed the animals. Don't agitate the animals. Or face their wrath. ...more

I Am Not Autism

We are not defined or labeled by the events of our lives.  We are molded and formed by them but certainly not a definition of them.So, why is it acceptable to teach our spectrum children to define themselves by their placement on that spectrum?  Why are we teaching our children to say “he’s autistic; I’m autistic”?...more