I have 4 children. 2 of them are Karol's kids, and so they are my "step children", and 2 of them are my biological children. The "step kids" are 22 and 19. The bio kids are 17 and 15. So we have had some experience raising teens.More and more I am seeing stories about teenagers and young adults who feel they are "entitled" to things. I read about Generation Y and how they feel as though society and their parents "owe" them jobs, opportunities, etc. They don't feel they have to work for things....more
My son finished elementary school last month, and while he seems to be approaching the idea of middle school with aplomb (or at least with an 11-year-old's casual coolness), I’m having a bad case of nostalgia right now. We’re at a family milestone, but I remind myself that such milestones are only the most prominent markers along a path full of signs and wonders....more
We are less than a month away from the day that we leave our older son behind at college and head home to a slightly emptier house.In order to avoid thinking about that for too long, I have been putting my energy into dealing with all of crap that needs to be done before he leaves for school: dorm room shopping, doctor’s appointments, haircut appointments, clothes shopping and, as a last-minute stressor, wisdom teeth extractions....more
OMG, it's happening, I am starting to miss the busy days of parenting a Toddler. With my son being 14 and daughter 12, they need me less and less. Actually let me rephrase that. They need, money, a ride to their friend's house, help with homework, I have no clue how to do they way they are being taught, rides to concerts and sporting events, food, that they somehow can't seem to find in the kitchen, anywhere, and did I mention, money?...more
It all began on a mundane weeknight.She had just played in her first ballgame of the season. Supper was over and she had settled in at the dining room table for a game of chess with her daddy.I was in another room entertaining a puppy and a boy when I heard the drama coming from the other room.I was used to drama during their chess games.He's teaching her how to play and she is highly competitive and those two don't always go well together. She loves the complexity of the game, he loves to see how amazing her mind works....more
I was not an athlete when I was in high school. I did run track my freshman and sophomore year, but that was it for athletics for me. I was the nerdy kid. I was in the marching band. And the concert band. I played the clarinet my entire high school career....more
First, let me say that I love my son. He has brought more joy to my life than I could ever have imagined.
Good, now that we have that straight, I must confess.
I don’t actually remember all of my son’s firsts. Nor do I have video documentation or an alphabetized library of scrapbooks as proof that my son did indeed take his first step or speak his first word. But, I can promise you that my now 15-year-old son is a walking, talking teen who can string sentences together and walk from place to place all by himself.
For as long as I have had children, people have commented about the hormones that were one day going to invade my home. I have always laughed it off, because it seemed so very far off in the distance. And although I listened to other parents talk about how at age nine their daughters started to change…a little bit more attitude, a little bit more tears, a little more moody — I didn’t take it very seriously.Because like most parents do, I chose denial as my force field, telling myself that my kids were different. I was different. Our journey would be different....more