Will the childfree regret their decision later?

A man in his early thirties who, along with his wife, isn’t sure he ever wants kids asked this question on an internet forum I frequent:Do you regret not having kids?Everyone’s answer: “No.”I always think the “regret” question (or, sometimes, curse – “You’ll regret it!”) is a little weird, because it creates – as I see it, anyway – a paradox....more

Confessions of An Ungrateful Daughter

Mother's Day is one of my least favorite days of the year on two levels. First, despite having ample opportunity, I have chosen not to be a mother, so there's not a damn thing in it for me. Secondly, I am estranged from my own mother, and have opted to see her only three times in the last 25 years. The essay below explains both decisions above. ...more

Spring is Finally Here & 99 Days of Summer

Hi all!  Wow!  What a nice weekend!  I feel like spring is really here now that we've finally had a weekend of warm weather!  I spent as much time as possible outside.  Check out some photos from the weekend below![pinit]On Saturday I hit up the Farmer's Market in Union Square....more

An Open Letter to DINKs Everywhere

Dear DINKs,Thank you.Thank you for uploading your gloriously childfree vacation pictures to Facebook. When you do this, I can "vacation" myself after my lovely little noisemakers have gone to bed. Fiji, Costa Rica, Miami, you go. You go to those places. You do it....more

You Can't Say That, HR Lady!

I interviewed for a job a few weeks ago that seemed like it could be my dream job…if there’s such a thing, given that I’d have to make my own company, Golden Door Consulting, my part-time gig, if I took it. That’s how almost-perfect this job sounded, so I was delighted when they invited me in for an interview. My first interview was with Human Resources, a nice young lady who kept telling me how impressed she was with my résumé.  I thought, “So, we’re off to a good start.” ...more

My Take on Elizabeth Wurtzel and Lipstick Feminism

Elizabeth Wurtzel has a recent piece in The Atlantic that is causing a fuss among women. Briefly, it deals with the volatile subject of beauty and aging, but also makes some eyebrow-lifting statements about feminism. Lauren McKenna at the blog Apt. 11D has some smart observations about the debate.--Mona ...more
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6 Signs that I'm Not Ready for Marriage (First 3)

Inspired by this blog post from HelloGiggles, I've decided to list out my own personal reasons of why I'm not ready to get married. No, this is not a hidden agenda to hint at OG or friends. This is sort of a cathartic way to talk myself off of the ledge of Quarter Life Crisis - instead of thinking "I'm already 25 years old and turning 26", my mind set should be "I'm only 25 and turning 26". So here goes... My 6 Signs that I'm Not Ready for Marriage...more

Pregnancy: A Treasure Trove of Terrifying Ailments

Let’s get disgusting, shall we? Last week, I developed a totally bizarre and (I thought) inexplicable* rash just above my ankles. Complaining about it to my boss (TMI for the workplace?) elicited one of her most common responses for nearly all our topics of conversation: “One more reason not to have kids!” She, who has a child of her own, went on to explain that pregnancy causes your body to flare up with all kinds of crazy ailments that can’t be readily explained or controlled....more

Busting America’s Baby Bust Argument

It’s hard to find a Childfree book or blog out there that doesn’t cite a desire not to contribute to overpopulation as a pretty solid reason not to have kids. So imagine my surprise when I opened a letter from my mom* and out tumbled a clipping of the Wall Street Journal’s “America’s Baby Bust” article, with the dramatic subtitle:The nation’s falling fertility rate is the root cause of many of our problems. And it’s only getting worse....more

Sucker at the Vet = Completely Broke at the Pediatrician Some Day?

A few weeks ago, our cat Jacques developed what we’ve affectionately been calling his pimp limp. Assuming he’d just had a too-hard landing from one of his many leaps off the kitchen island, we waited a while before thoughts of early onset arthritis and joint fluid infections guilted me into a trip to the vet this past Saturday. After a ninety-six point inspection on his front quarters, no obvious injuries or abnormalities were found and it was all chalked up to the possibility of a pulled muscle. No doubt earned in his many athletic endeavors, including…Lounging on pizza boxes:...more