When my husband and I got married 2 years ago, we both decided that children were not for us. My husband and I can both work long hours at times, and we have proven that we can both be rather selfish people. We both enjoy nice things, and want to continue to live the lifestyle we have, and we both know that if we had a child we would not be able to maintain our lifestyle. ...more
I have to make the most important decision of my life and it's making me miserable. I fell in love with a man who is older than me and has four teenage girls. I am thirty-two. He recently told me he does not want kids and I am devestated. I have to choose between a childless life with him and finding another man who wants kids. I feel like someone is asking me to decide which one of my limbs I should cut off my arm or my leg. Any choice I make is very painful. To make things worse I work around kids and can never get away from the constant reminder....more
It's funny how quickly people can come in and out of your life, and how most friendships are just taken for granted. Over the past few months it has really been proven to me that nobody is going to be there for you but yourself. Some of the people I have considered to be my 'best' friends are hardly ever there now. I understand that as life changes, those friendships are going to change, but I really thought some of these people would be life long friends. ...more
My name is Hannah. I'm 25 (just shy of 26), a college graduate, full time employeed in a managerial type job, happy boyfriend of almost 2 years... and a victim of life. Yes, I said it, I'm a victim of life. Or that's what I have been thinking for the past 3 or so years. It really hurts to say that. I'm the girl that bemoans the fact that I've gained 15 pounds while eating a candy bar, the girl that cries when her boyfriend isn't perfect (even though he is!!!), I'm the girl that hates my job while not doing anything to change it....more
I call this "On pleasure and personhood -- the final word."
Last year I was visiting my childhood friend, now a mother, when dinner time arrived. She squirted ketchup onto her daughter’s plate and then her son’s. And then mine. I looked at it. She immediately recognized her mistake and laughed. She knew I could squirt my own ketchup, she said, but she was just so used to doing it … she apologized (still laughing) for overstepping her role as “mother” by inadvertently mothering me.
Time Magazine recently published an article called the “Childfree Life,” written by Lauren Sandler, in which she explores this growing and apparently controversial demographic. According to Sandler, couples are deciding to have it all by choosing not to have children. As a woman in her thirties still childfree but open to the possibility of motherhood in the near future, I wanted to get an honest account of what being a mom is really like....more
"I love children. I just don't need to own one". This is one of my favorite quotes from this week’s Time Magazine (August 12 issue) excellent article by Lauren Sandler on the rise in women choosing not to have children. The article cites a 2010 Pew Research report that showed that childlessness has risen across all racial and ethnic groups, adding up to about 1 in 5 American women who end their childbearing years maternity-free, compared with 1 in 10 in the 1970s. ...more
Barb, Cassy and Pat (Cassy’s Mom)Yesterday we welcomed Cassy’s mom, Pat, visiting from Florida, to our home. But most importantly, Cassy was excited to share with her mom, (and help put her mind at ease) that her new home is a place of comfort, love and security....more