not funny, at all, and yet so so funny

had fun today coming up with all kinds of ways that I'll be able to screw up this child.  My favorite plan was the one where I tape her feet together so she'll never be able to walk and will therefore remain manageable and portable, all in the name of bringing some culture to her life and raising her chinese.  I laughed about a hundred times today thinking of it.  Thank you to my partner in experimental-child-rearing crimes, you know who you are. I had a massage today.  I'm ready.   ...more

why write?

oh yeah - why?  because I've got tons of nervous energy.  because I'm a "processor". writing it out makes me feel like i'm processing with my friends and I'm trying to channel this energy somewhere----away from Jeremy.  Not that he's not supportive, because he totally is.  He's more relaxed and excited about it and thinks it's going to be great.  which it will be.  right?    ...more

Kidless Auntie babysits

well here goes -- I'm gonna blog.  I'm positive no one will read it except my sister, and maybe Sandi because she's a reader of blogs - mom too if she knows about it - but mostly just for me and someday for little miss Betty Mae, my niece, who I am completely in love with.  And whom I will be babysitting now one day per week.  omg. um, exciting? yes. scary? yes. am I sure? no. ...more
thanks @ChrisDaniels  :) more

Maui's Mokawao & Environs: Art, Cowboys & Style

If you go to Hawaii and don't see at least one surf board, then you've missed a big part of the culture. People GO to Hawaii to surf and locals take great pride in the fact that they have great 'surf.' I passed this little surf shop on my way to Makawao, which was in fact my first stop on Maui after I landed on a mid-May trip recently....more

Marilyn Monroe Left No Kids Behind. Does Anybody Care?

Every generation is convinced that their icons are too colossal, too talented,  too...well, iconic, to ever be replaced.  For Baby Boomers, there's an added dimension of, "Angelina who?"...more

The Great Happiness Debate: Childfree vs. Parents

The argument pendulum of who’s happier – parents or their Childfree counterparts – is swinging more frequently than the Six Flags Buccaneer ride, and frankly, I’m getting a little seasick....more

Family Planning Choices

I've read a few articles lately about the horrible things people say to women who don't have children. This is close to home and I am feeling pretty riled up about it. Like all things that rile me up, I opted to write a strongly worded, acidic response. And then I sat on it for four days. I've toned down the acid, and I opted to keep the strong words....more

An Accidentally (Or Not?) Childfree Bucket List

Drew and I went to San Francisco last weekend to visit our friends Ben and Caroline, and I was struck by a pretty powerful observation on the way up. We’d decided to drive, because we’re crazy and don’t mind an insanely long road trip, and it gives us time to have nice long chats. And probably half of all those chats are prompted by one of us saying,“Wouldn’t it be cool if someday we…”This trip was no exception. By the time we hit the Bay Bridge, we determined that it would be pretty awesome if we could:...more

5 Things NOT to Say to the Childfree

I was recently interviewed for an article in womansday on what not to say to the childfree. Writer Charlotte Lavala asked me about "cringe-worthy" things women can say to their childfree woman friends. I gave her a boatload of ideas, and a couple landed in the article. Here is more of what I told her:1. Asking, "Is/Are your ______ ok with you not wanting kids?" Fill in "husband" or "parents" or "grandparents"....more
You're darn right I have *more* time than someone with kids! That's one of the reasons I don't ...more

Mister Maybe's Thoughts on Babies

It takes two to make a baby (who knew?), and two to make a baby decision. Now that I’ve been spouting off for a while, I thought you guys might like to hear what Drew thinks about all this. Here it is, in his own words:We’ve decided to decide together...more