Taking The Big Leap -- I'm Getting Sterilized!

For the past year I've been considering permanent birth control.  My default choice was tubal ligation but I'm not incredibly keen on having surgery, seeing how the only surgery I've ever had was eye surgery when I was a year old.  I found out about the Essure procedure last year and have been looking at it as a possible option, and after a lot of research, I've decided to have that done.  I verified with our insurance company at work that it is, in fact, covered, and I made an appointment at a w ...more

Baby Decision Mind Games

Sometimes when I have trouble making a decision, I play out in my head what it would be like to tell my family and friends my plans, looking at what happens with both options. I can glean quite a bit of information about what I should do based on how I imagine them reacting and how I feel about telling them. So for the first time, I finally thought through what it would be like to tell people about our final decision regarding the kids issue. Just to see if the true answer would reveal itself. Because I’m naively hopeful like that....more

Childfree Flights: Navigating the Unfriendly Skies?

There was a bit of a stir on the Maybe Lady Facebook page recently when I posted a link to an article from a Mom (Priyanka Kher) who was insulted by Malaysia Airline’s decision to offer premium-priced seats in a Childfree section of the plane....more

Marriage. Kids. They're Not For Everybody. Really.

At a dinner party with some “friends” a few years ago, there was a longer than necessary conversation about “what’s wrong with Eleanore” (me) because I’m not married and I have no kids. I’m a spinster. A pretty amazing one, but a spinster, nonetheless. An active participant in the conversation was a woman who had just gone through her third divorce. Apparently I was the only one in the room who thought the conversation should really have been about “what’s wrong with Sharon?” I’m thinking to myself, “Why does this woman keep getting married?” ...more

Not sure swimming lessons was such a great idea after all.

I had a genius idea a few weeks ago that I wanted to take Bug to swimming lessons.  I know Mol was a fish growing up and she started with baby swim lessons so I figured her babe should have that too. After calling around a bit I found a place in Apple Valley that happens to have “dolphin pups” classes on Wednesdays at 11am so – yesterday – I signed us up. ...more

Post Mortem Part One

So tomorrow is my consultant appointment. I really have no idea what to expect from it, other than I know that my medical notes have finally come in from Italy, so hopefully we can go over my labour, complications, etc.   Also, in a strange twist of fate, I had an email from my midwife in Italy today asking if I was available for a phone call tomorrow. I'm not really, so ended up speaking to her this afternoon....more

Knowing Nothing About Parenting, Yet Seeing More Than The Average Parent

Since I became a nanny, I not only get a lot of people asking me questions about children and the care of children. I also get a lot of people sneering at me about how I know nothing about what it is to be a parent, and how dare I try to advise on anything to do with children and child-raising. This doesn’t just apply to being a nanny, either. This applies to being a childless person in general.Well. (And here I pause, crack my knuckles, and sigh. Well.)...more

Oh baby oh Baby

When I was twenty-three I got involved with a man who was needless to say, less than ideal. I was not in love I was lonely. He was good-looking, charming and most of all abusive. This post however is not about him. It is about the result of the damage he left behind. Shortly into our very whirlwind drama (romance being too kind of a word) I got pregnant....more

Being Spinsterlicious...on The Kari Adams Show

Recently, I was a guest on The Kari Adams Show, which pertains to all things dating, relationships, single life and how to find your perfect partner.   Kari and I hit it off immediately and had a fun conversation about "living a delicious life" as a single woman. ...more

Single? Adventure is Yours!

One of the first chapters of my book, The Spinsterlicious Life: 20 Life Lessons for Living Happily Single and Childfree is about my belief in the importance for spinsters to maintain a sense of adventure.  We are unencumbered and free from many of the responsibilities that wives and mothers have, and we should take advantage of it. There's nobody to tell us what to do...or not do. ...more