When I was young, I just assumed that I would grow up, meet someone special, fall in love, get married, and have children - in that order. Truthfully, though, I never actually gave much thought as to my desire or ability to carry out any of these roles - my expectations were based solely on the premise that that's what people do.
There's a good deal of talk about how the childfree often lose friends when kids come on the scene, or at least about how the friendships change. Here's a woman who asks the friendship question from the perspective of the parent-to-be<...more
I think it's important --from time to time-- to do something outside your normal routine, out-of-the-ordinary, something a little adventurous. Here's a story about one of my favorite adventures and a lesson I learned from it. Excerpted from The Spinsterlicious Life: 20 Life Lessons for Living Happily Single and Childfree. Copyright 2011. All rights reserved. Lesson 2: Indulge yourself! Romance. Sex. Adventure....more
Why don't I have kids? Because I never really wanted 'em. They're not for everybody, something I tried to explain to a woman I met recently. She looked at me like I was speaking a foreign language that she didn't understand. And I guess I kind of was, because she has four kids and couldn't seem to shut up about them. And, actually, she was more than just "a woman", she was a client so I felt it important that I be clear but oh so polite. I would like her to hire me again…even though she probably thinks of me as 'that strange woman with no kids'....more
Wow – it appears that no one is safe from the celebrity baby bump watch obsession – not even the starlettes who’ve already indicated they don’t want children. Now that I’m fully entrenched in the world of blogging about having a baby, I’m signed up for Google alerts on Childfree topics....more
There's an old expression that "youth is wasted on the young." I heard it all my life and never quite got it. I just thought those who said it --who were always older than I was-- were just annoyed that they were older than whoever it was they were thinking of when they made the comment. Now I know better. That expression has nothing to do with being annoyed at someone younger than you are, it's all about having learned that we don't really really know what life is all about until we've lived awhile....more
As the author of Families of Two, (and next book to come out very soon!) I have been interviewed for lots of articles over the years, but not like with "Fab Over 50" -- they wanted to talk with me up close and personal about my life and childfree choice. Here's some background and perspective fr...more
Surely you’ve noticed that Girl Scouts suddenly seem to be all over the place: front and center on Good Morning America, or prominently placed on LATimes.com. Girl Scouts are 100 years old this year. All that green doesn’t look a day over 50. The actual centennial day was March 12. ...more