I feel childfree because my children are away at school

I like taking care of my children, specially because they like my foods. I feel like I am making a difference in this life. Now my children are living with their father and I had to put their needs first and allow them to stay with him and his new wife and her children. My son would have to wake up at 6am to travel to my house, when it would be his father's week because we have share custody. He moved so far away almost in the remote country side. I texed them often and call them as much as I can. We set facetime but have not yet use it....more

When a Vacation isn't a Vacation

Do you have a list of places that you would never want to visit?  My list is a lot more focused than the list of places I want to visit.  Plus, I live in Florida which is pretty much everyone's travel destination.  For instance, I want to visit Alaska, England, and Italy;  I don't want to visit Miami.  When I first saw this prompt for NaBloPoMo, it's what really got me encouraged to do this.  Ideally, I would have written the post last night to schedule today.  But the time change is seriously screwing with me. ...more

Am I Too Young To Think Children Are Obnoxious?

I’m 24.  When I was 11 I started thinking about having kids, and I really really wanted to until 3 years ago when I began to hesitate. I was raised in a cultish, fundie Baptist church, so I’m sure that had something to do with the strong desire as a teenager (on top of hormones).  I was cultivated to believe that women are baby-making machines and basically that you couldn’t be complete in your womanhood until you’d produced another meat-eating, gas-guzzling, bible-thumping Republican for the world.  ...more

NaBloPoMo what?!? Joining in and Holiday Memories

I was reading one of the new blogs that I follow thanks to Helene and Tay's Blogtober14 event.  I'm kind of bummed that I didn't get to finish it out due to the fact that I'm a pansy.  But then I found out about NoBloPoMo just in time.  Blogher is hosting this for the entire month of November, and I've printed out the prompts.  I did this yesterday, and then I missed posting yesterday.  But that's okay beca...more

Rainy Babies and Island Croissants

This adventure inspired my first ever Instagram collage. ...more

DINK Lifestyle: Glamorous or Sad?

For those of you unfamiliar with the acronym DINK it stands for Duel Income, No Kids. Being of the DINK subset of humans myself I was familiar with the concept but not the terminology.  When I first heard of the “DINK Lifestyle” I felt so labeled, so judged....more
PSA: "Dual" and "duel" have different meanings.more

Fireside Chat: Dying with Dignity

Welcome to the "Fireside Chats".   It is getting cold here in Silicon Valley and I personally would love to sit down with you at the fire place, with a glass of (your favorite drink) and chat about life.  Of course, when you think of life death is a part of the story too....more

No Really, I Never Want to Have Kids

I am twenty-four years old and I can tell you, without a shadow of a doubt, that I don’t want to have children. Ever. When I get on my own health insurance I want to get my tubes tied, and until then I will take every possible precaution to avoid getting pregnant. We live in the 21st century, so why is a woman who opts to stay childfree for life still given the stink-eye?...more
"I choose not to allocate my body and my financial, emotional, and physical resources to that ...more

How to Make a Child-Free Woman Feel Awkward

In the past year and ESPECIALLY in the past few months, I’ve been surrounded by babies, particularly newborns. My best friend and brother both had their firstborns within days of each other, so naturally a lot of photoshoots followed....more
Bodynsoil exactly!  it's the best.more


Dear Ann Abler,I'm 34 and my fiance and I don't know if we're sold on the idea of having kids. What do you think? Is it everything they say it is?...more
E. R. Catalano yeah...I fear the bonobo stage, which I believe are the teenage years. ;)more