Born this way; my belief in being born gay.

We are all born a certain way.  With a certain genetic code that decides what color hair we will have, will it be straight or curly, how tall will we be, how stout will we be.  It tells us what color eyes we will have, hazel, green, brown or blue.  Or in the case of my friend Tanja, one blue and one brown.  Actually, Tanja has one blue eye and her other eye is half brown and half blue.  It is impossible NOT to look her in the eyes.  Our DNA decides if we will be born with all of our body parts and brains fully functioning, or if we are missing a chromosome, or ...more

Storytelling on Transgender Day of Remembrance

Whether you know it or not, since 1998 November 20th has been set aside as the Transgender Day of Remembrance, a day for remembering the tragically high number of transgender men and women who have lost their lives to violence. Tonight there will be memorial vigils held in cities across the nation. Candles will be lit, and stories will be told....more
The transgendered community was vital in the repeal of DADT, many of whom served our country ...more

Sunday Morning Questions

Went to see “Lincoln” yesterday.  Such a poignant and important movie, the dialogue was absolutely intelligent, fired off with such expertise and wit that I found myself laughing at the smallest nuance of speech....more

Some People Are Gay. Get Over It!

NaBloPoMo - Day Fourteen: Something I believe in. I don't get out that much during the week, but when the weekend rolls around I'm always bursting to get out.The other day we were driving into town and a bus passed us and on the side was printed - Some people are gay. Get over it!  ...more

Wait what? Did you say you want to join the Marines???

Poor Bluebell.  She cried.  She cried as her 17 year old son The Hunter walked out the front door with a Marine Corps recruiter to go take a "practice" ASVAB test.Let me back up a bit, that is actually the middle of the story....more

Repulicrat or Demopublican....which one am I?

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Politics is as personal as every, day 8: What if my family was yours?

Here’s the Back Story: Darling Virgo and I have been married four times. It’s true. Well, sort of true. I guess I should say we’ve been “married” four times (emphasis on the quotation marks). The first was in the summer of 2000, just a few days after Howard Dean signed Civil Unions into Vermont law. We hustled over to Brattleboro that weekend and were the fourteenth couple to “I DO” in front of an old man with long eyebrows who was very happy and very nervous to betroth us in civil unity. Of course it meant absolutely nothing unless you lived in Vermont, which we didn’t....more

Politics is as personal as every, day 5: Stimulus looks like a 3 bedroom ranch.

          When the real estate market crashed in September 2008, Darling Virgo and I were in the same position as a lot of Americans.  We had placed all the money saved up during our pre-parenting years (working for nickels at rusty little non-profits) in what seemed like a sound investment: a small three unit building in downtown Portland in which we lived and landlorded....more
@JennaHatfield Hi Jenna!  I have been to the group (only once, but will go more).  In fact the ...more

Beneath a Cloudless Sky: Believing in Change

Shortly after we moved into our house in 1996, Luisa and I hung a rainbow flag off the front of our house.  It felt like staking a claim - we were creating a home together - and every day I'd come home from work and smile as I saw that flag fluttering in the wind. And then one day, we came home to find that the flag had been burned. ...more
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My son thinks his gay mom is cool

When I first started dating my lovely partner Bluebell, we had to keep everything a secret.  First of all, she was still in the military and Don’t Ask Don’t Tell was alive and well.  Plus I had just gotten divorced and was unwilling to let my children know I was in a relationship with her.  They knew we were best friends, and I decided to leave it at that....more