10 Things You Need to Stop Saying to Gay Parents

So I have read a few funny posts lately about "if Latinos said the things white people say" and if "Asians said the things white people say." Also, things you shouldn't say to a lesbian or a gay dad, and I decided to add my own list of things you shouldn't say to people. Specifically gay people. Even more specifically gay parents....more
yes to all of them! :)more

"Transparent" on Amazon Is Your Next New Fall TV Binge

After suffering through the last season of The Fosters, ABC Family’s Little House on the Prairie treatment of parenting while gay, I was desperate to watch a queer series about queers and families made for grown ups. In other words, I wanted to see some boobs! No, that’s not really what I meant …. to say out loud. In other words, I wanted believable characters and nuanced plot lines and funny dialogue that was not taken out of my father’s shoebox full of cliché one-liners. ...more
This is my new favorite show. I love the way transgender life/Jewish realities are portrayed.more

Latina Transwoman Murdered in Memphis, Family Needs Help With Funeral Expenses

Friday night, another trans sister of color was murdered, this time in Memphis. 41 year old Alejandra Leos was born in Monclova Vieja, Coahuila De Zaragoza, Mexico, but lived with her family in Memphis. She had family support and job security. She was respected, loved and valued by those who knew her. Alejandra used the name Alexandra on her Facebook page....more

Why I Agreed to Marry My Gay Friends

When my longtime friend Robert and his soon-to-be-spouse Patrick asked me if I’d consider officiating at their upcoming nuptials, my immediate reaction was — wow! And why? ...more
I LOVE officiating weddings! I've done everything from a fancy one where I wore a cassock to an ...more

A Fish in a Tiny Fish Bowl – Being Gay in a Third World Country

*Fish is a Jamaican derogatory slang for homosexuals. ...more

"Lesbian Bed Death": Fact or Fiction?

I first heard the term "Lesbian Bed Death" aka LBD when I was 18. Women would mention it and say that is was real, and it happened to women after they had been in monogamous relationships for many years.  I was never worried because I was quite young and was not in a monogamous relationship, so I didn't even give it a thought....more
TerriLynnMerritts I am going in for my annual physical next month.  I will talk to my physician ...more

Same-Sex Marriage: Why Everybody's Right ... and Wrong

Lines have been drawn, the symbolic moral high road taken, and the demands for social acceptance...um... demanded in the latest showdown between Christians and homosexuals in the War on Marriage/ Battle for Marriage Equality. (It all depends on which side of the fence you're on. But everyone seems to agree that they are engaged in combat of some sort.)...more
janespringfield Good point.  And "Dresses for Jesus" is kind of catchy.  And I would definitely ...more

Gay or Straight, I Just Want My Sons To Be Happy

An old story about Kate Winslet’s 7-year-old son admitting that he could be gay was brought to my attention recently. It led to me to think about how I would feel if either of my sons were gay and how I would react to their admission.  Image: woodleywonderworks ...more
My main focus and message to my sons has been LOVE. I want them to know what love, acceptance, ...more

After 11 Years, My Partner Still Has My Number

This month Laura (aka Ledcat) and I celebrate 11 years of togetherness. Like many LGBTQ couples who (until recently) had no access to marriage, we've used our first date as our anniversary. Thanks to smart planning on my part, we moved in together almost two years to the day later. This minimizes anniversary dilemmas....more
WomenTricks Thanks for sharing my BlogHer postmore