A Fish in a Tiny Fish Bowl – Being Gay in a Third World Country

*Fish is a Jamaican derogatory slang for homosexuals. ...more

"Lesbian Bed Death": Fact or Fiction?

I first heard the term "Lesbian Bed Death" aka LBD when I was 18. Women would mention it and say that is was real, and it happened to women after they had been in monogamous relationships for many years.  I was never worried because I was quite young and was not in a monogamous relationship, so I didn't even give it a thought....more
Tinseltine cdrdash Yes, I agree with both of you! Having that strong emotional bond and a loving ...more

Same-Sex Marriage: Why Everybody's Right ... and Wrong

Lines have been drawn, the symbolic moral high road taken, and the demands for social acceptance...um... demanded in the latest showdown between Christians and homosexuals in the War on Marriage/ Battle for Marriage Equality. (It all depends on which side of the fence you're on. But everyone seems to agree that they are engaged in combat of some sort.)...more
janespringfield Good point.  And "Dresses for Jesus" is kind of catchy.  And I would definitely ...more

After 11 Years, My Partner Still Has My Number

This month Laura (aka Ledcat) and I celebrate 11 years of togetherness. Like many LGBTQ couples who (until recently) had no access to marriage, we've used our first date as our anniversary. Thanks to smart planning on my part, we moved in together almost two years to the day later. This minimizes anniversary dilemmas....more
WomenTricks Thanks for sharing my BlogHer postmore

Looking Back from a Milestone

My son finished elementary school last month, and while he seems to be approaching the idea of middle school with aplomb (or at least with an 11-year-old's casual coolness), I’m having a bad case of nostalgia right now. We’re at a family milestone, but I remind myself that such milestones are only the most prominent markers along a path full of signs and wonders....more

Crazy Crap That Makes Me Laugh and Love Them Even More

“If love is the treasure, laughter is the key.” Yakov Smirnoff                        ...more

Second Trans Woman Murdered in Baltimore

More terrible news from Baltimore – the murder of 26-year-old Mia Henderson, a trans woman of color whose body was discovered Wednesday.  From Parker Molloy at The Advocate:...more

My First Kiss ... was with a Girl!

A few weeks ago, I was out dancing with a friend at an LGBT club where I met several new people of interest. I found myself quickly lost in a deep conversation with one of the men there about his ‘coming out’ story, and it wasn’t until this moment that a flood of memories saturated in past pain resurfaced. While the painful memories popped up, I was simultaneously being comforted by the emotional connection I was experiencing with this other person. I wasn’t alone in my past struggle with sexuality....more

New Dungeons & Dragons Rules Embrace Diverse Gender Identities, Sexual Orientation

Yep, I'm that kind of geek. I first played Dungeons & Dragons — the original edition — back in high school in the early 80s. Now my son plays. I was thrilled, therefore, to discover that the new version of D&D, which officially launches next week, is clearly and deliberately inclusive of a diverse range of gender identities, gender expressions, and sexual orientations....more